I help parents who are worried about managing their child’s explosive and out of control emotions to develop an individualized system to manage their kid’s explosive feelings when they don’t fit the examples in typical parenting books.
I know you are a parent of a Highly Sensitive Child and are ready to stop scouring the internet for new strategies, throw out those traditional parenting books that don’t match your kid, and develop an individualized system to manage your kid’s explosive feelings.
When you don’t pass out from sheer exhaustion, you are lying awake at night worrying that if you don’t help your kiddo get it together, they will end up hurting themselves or someone else when they’re older. They already say things they regret when they’re angry or overwhelmed, and this terrifies you. You’ve researched the highly sensitive child personality trait. You’ve read mommy blogs by parents of HSC’s, but you feel like you’re throwing paint at a wall trying random strategies, when you really want to be painting by numbers.
You are tired of feeling like a hostage in your own home, but you struggle to take back control in a way that doesn’t lead your child to feel the intense sense of shame they show you every time they talk about their explosions. The typical parenting book (if you have the time and energy to get through one of them) talks about consistency and talking out the feelings with the child, but often highly sensitive children need flexibility to feel validated, and STRUGGLE to name their feelings and trust their gut! This leaves parents feeling FRUSTRATED with their kid who says they “just don’t know why” they acted this way, or what was behind their angry feeling. Parents often feel lost when this strategy works one day, but not the next (even when they’ve been using it for a week!)
The books for kids with explosive emotions are long, and complicated! The ‘simple’ strategies they propose require you to read over 200 pages! They use complicated psycho-babble to explain their points, and you end up getting lost in the words so quickly you have to read them over and over again! And THEN you have to figure out how to make it work for your family’s needs!
In my work as a child and parenting expert for almost a decade, I used to request that my clients read parenting books while I worked more closely with their children. We would schedule meetings every 4-6 weeks, and I got frustrated when parents told me they couldn’t make it through the books, so I recommended podcasts. They told me they weren’t able to listen to all of them.
Parents of highly sensitive children need quick, simple steps and much more support than a book or a podcast can provide in order to make lasting change in their families. I started to give them support alongside their child so they could see the work in action. I simplified my process, and sped up the pace for quicker results.
The highly sensitive children I work with in my separate private practice business consider me a part of their family, and so do their parents. The kids take my business cards and hand them out to their friends (I also think they secretly collect them). Their parents shout from the rooftops about how I’ve helped them get their lives back. Moms are able to spend ALL DAY READING A BOOK WITH THEIR KIDS IN THE SAME HOUSE! As a parent of a toddler, this is something even I can envy!
Imagine being able to go through the grocery store without an outburst, or take on that challenge at work without fearing your career will be jeopardized for leaving early to tend to your child’s meltdown at school. Consider lying in bed dreaming of the schools you will visit when your child is college-aged, rather than fearing hospital bills for inpatient treatment.
If you are ready to stop feeling like seaweed rippling in the gulf of your child’s emotions, ready to improve your relationship with your child, and learn to roll with the punches of parenting a kid who doesn’t fit the parenting books, APPLY BELOW to learn more about your next steps in gaining more peace at home.
I've been a child mental health therapist for over a decade. (You can learn more about the difference between coaching and therapy by clicking here.) As a Registered Play Therapist-Supervisor (RPT-S), I've worked with Highly Sensitive Children and Teens throughout my career, and now exclusively treat HSCs and HS teens in my group mental health practice in Maryland, where my team of clinicians offer the only evidence-based treatment proven to support sensitive teens who have developed suicidal thoughts or other life threatening behaviors in the region.
I've supervised therapists and taught children, teens, parents, teachers and therapists on the concept of Sensory Processing Sensitivity (The Highly Sensitive personality trait) for over 6 years. As I've honed my specialty, I know exactly what works and what doesn't work for parents at home. I've worked in school systems supporting sensitive children and teens in obtaining IEPs/504 Plans, and have trained teachers on the needs of HSCs. I knew this support was needed globally, so I expanded my reach to help parents of HSCs around the world live in peaceful, happy homes.
I know exactly how you struggle because my family struggled too. My younger sister is an HSC and none of us knew it until I received specialized training in my career several years ago.