Trying to navigate your child's meltdowns, shame spirals, and outbursts on a day to day basis is REALLY HARD.
I get it.
Parents tell me all the time that they are surviving by just "picking their battles."
But picking your battles is not the solution. It will not support you HSC emotionally. It will not save you energy for the next meltdown. It will not bring your family the peace and joy they deserve.
In this video, I discuss the traps parents of highly sensitive kids fall into when choosing to pick their battles...
And what you can do to avoid these traps.
Watch this video to learn more!
Based on my experience working with children with explosive behaviors either due to a severe trauma history or mismatched parenting dynamic over the past 11 years, and in my awareness and training of the research on sensitive children, the mental health system is not just broken in serving this population, it can be quite destructive.
I say that because I’ve spoken to and served parents around the world in my career who struggle to support their children with big emotions and who have trusted the mental health system to serve their family to greater peace in their home and they are left empty-handed. I have personally also lost 2 family members to suicide, and another to severe drug addiction, and have a 4th family member who still struggles with intense emotions so I know this space intimately.
In my practice we serve families and children with explosive behaviors as young as 2 via tele-mental health, and have done so consistently years before the pandemic.
If you’re a parent who is certain your child is an HSC, and have been trying to stop the daily meltdowns or lasting irritability…
There’s a hard way to create peace, and there’s a fun way to create peace in your home.
The hard way is the ‘random research’ model.
Reading, Googling, and listening to all sorts of books, podcasts and videos is exhausting, costs time, money and is draining on your whole family.
You’ll need to sustain your child’s attention for every coping skill you teach…and eventually your HSC will stop trying with you. And you (and your spouse) will resort to yelling, ignoring, walking on eggshells, and punishing.
But there is also a fun way.
The fun way is through play, validation, and by breaking down shame gently for your child.
Play is the language of children, it’s the only way to actually teach a child and expect your child to retain the information.
Children don’t change their...
This morning as I woke up grateful for family snuggles with my 3 year old.
I was also acutely aware that many black families don’t have that privilege without a worry in the back of their mind of when their child’s innocence will be robbed.
Robbed of the safety of walking down the street.
Robbed from speaking up without threat to their life.
Robbed from life.
As our country sits divided, it is my privilege and honor to speak up against racism.
Because to me there’s no line in the sand when it comes to racism.
Our children need us to lead them to notice their emotions and recognize how to process them, without letting their opinions cloud their judgment or impulsivity.
That’s the core skill deficit for those who cannot listen to people who are hurting, and instead choose to refute and invalidate the experiences of others.
And that is a DEADLY skill deficit.
So, as a white business owner, I speak out. This is not a political issue. This is a life or death issue....
THIS. IS. SERIOUS.
When your child has outbursts and meltdowns on a daily basis, they are experiencing emotions that are out of their control. They feel lost, confused, and ashamed of these BIG FEELINGS. And when they don't know how to process and express their emotions in productive ways, they explode.
And guess what? This isn't something they will grow out of. As your HSC grows older, the meltdowns and outbursts will turn into serious risky behavior:
- Attacking other; verbally and physically
- Chronic depression and/or anxiety
- Self Harm
In this video I discuss:
- the difference between a mental health issue vs. a mental health illness
- how HSC children are commonly misdiagnosed
- Why you need to take action NOW
I know you are a committed parent. I know you're giving your child the best life you can. But, if your HSC is experiencing meltdowns and outbursts now, your child needs you to commit even more. Commit to...
The world around our families is reacting to the recent events of police brutality. Your child is able to sense the tension taking place and it's important to address that tension by starting and continuing the conversation about race.
In this video, I discuss how to start the conversation about racism with your child.
Many parents ask me... My child is having meltdowns... is it really that bad? Isn't that normal for kids?
How my 10+ years of expertise working with Highly Sensitive Children & their families and my personal family experiences impacts my opinion, and what that means for your family.
Watch this video to learn more!
As schools are temporarily closing to avoid spread of COVID-19, and child care arrangements are changing, many parents are reaching out now more than ever for support, especially if their HSC is struggling with big emotions.
Join me as I discuss key points in the opportunities that arise to support your child through unexpected fear.
Watch the video to learn more!
Avoid the vortex of negativity as the media and your newsfeed is freaking out with the coronavirus crisis. Focus on what you can control.
Now more than ever, as your children are looking to you to see how they can respond to fear.
This video is a great one to come back to as we stay strong, guide ourselves, and focus on love as we lead our children to manage emotions from a place of love.
It starts with you as a parent.
Wise action comes from love, not fear. Not overthinking, not rumination, not spinning through your options in your brain a million times over until "this passes."
Because the truth is that if you don't step out of your own head, and into your heart, your worries actually become ALL you can think about.
And that certainly doesn't solve your problem, and help your HSC creatively learn how to solve theirs.
So if you see your HSC imploding (hiding, running away, struggling to communicate until you PULL it out of them harder than it took them to pop their baby teeth...
Join me as I discuss what to do if your kid's therapist does not know about the Highly Sensitive Personality Trait.