If you are staying up past midnight googling “how to tell my kid bad news without them freaking out on me or hating me,”
This message is for you.
It’s hard enough helping your HSC navigate changes in plans or new circumstances.
How can you possibly prepare them to hear unexpected bad news?!
You can’t control when their favorite teacher quits, or their best friend moves away...
Or being around your aunt who complains about everything and casually brings up devastating news in front of the children...
Or your niece who lost their hamster and won’t stop talking about it…
How can you say “your cousin might be sad today because Spot died” without causing your HSC to meltdown?
It’s normal to be sad when a pet or loved one passes away, but fearing the meltdown from your HSC is another story.
Tune in while I discuss how to prepare your HSC for surprised BAD news.
Hitting, kicking, screaming, cursing, running away… Are you raising a sociopath?
“Don’t you notice that he’s hurt!”
“See, you made him cry!”
...Are phrases that create shame in your child and keep this cycle going.
But how else do you get your HSC to notice the outcome of what they’re doing?
Ask yourself: Are you still blaming your sensitive kid for their lack of empathy?
When kids feel overstimulated, they SEE RED.
If your child is making UNSAFE choices when they see red,
Hitting and acting like they are out of control in their own bodies,
THEY NEED YOUR HELP.
Once the meltdown hits, your kid is no longer in control of their body. This TERRIFIES them.
When their body is out of control, EVERYTHING is a threat.
They can't learn, think, and see outside of themselves.
Watch the replay to learn more about why empathy is NOT the problem.