RESULTS

The results demonstrated on this page are from committed parents who are willing to go above and beyond for their child's emotional well being. These are real clients who showed up like rockstars and did the work. No one was compensated for their testimonial.

I knew something in our family dynamic had to change, and that the changes needed were beyond the scope of my expertise. Coming off of a particularly challenging weekend with my son, the Bootcamp course popped up in my Facebook feed (I had already been following Megghan’s HSC group) and I decided it was a sign to take the leap. I knew I didn’t want things to get worse the walking on eggshells, rearranging my life to not upset my HSC, putting my daughter second to his needs, constantly justifying thing to my husband about our HSC, some self-esteem issues my little guy was experiencing… you name it… we needed help!
The course worked really well for our family and has changed the dynamic within the household. My son (9) is much more comfortable at home and not in constant defense mode and that translates into improving all other aspects of life. It’s notable that he is feeling validated by all of us (my husband included, who was having trouble relating to our HSC in a way that wasn’t just authority-driven, maybe that was the most profound change of all!) as a direct result of the Bootcamp, change of approach in my parenting style, my confidence in following Megghan Thompson’s approach, openly having hard conversations, etc. my husband (who loves our son very much but didn’t understand him) started to understand our HSC and accept him for who he is!).
All summer long I had the joy of updating Megghan with different small victories along the way. We were able to take a 2.5 week vacation this summer with lots of driving and being out of routine for a long period of time in close quarters! The trip this year was a true pleasure (instead of the nightmare family trip we took two years prior)! The relationship between siblings has improved and my overall level of anxiety has been significantly reduced because I don’t feel like I have to be at 100% readiness at 100% of the time (ready for what? Ready to diffuse time-bomb of a son who might explode! Or a spouse who might as a consequence of the son’s refusal of dinner, or a meltdown or a whatever).
Another HUGE change has been that my son is able to verbalize much better what’s going on in a situation and how he’s feeling about it. Previously he would just clam up and not say anything (or start hitting himself in the head). We haven’t entirely stopped meltdowns, but if they happen they are rare, and we generally can diffuse the situation much sooner, I think primarily because he’s feeling emotionally safer and his overall anxiety is reduced. I have started talking to teachers and others about my HSC in a different way that advocates for his strengths and frames his challenges in a helpful way. I still may use a label here and there, but it’s coming from a place of calm confidence and not defensiveness as I advocate for him. I feel like I could go on and on...

Having someone in my corner, who understood the challenges of the HSC gave me confidence to try the plan, and follow through. Before I felt so out of my league as a parent! Having mini-scripts to follow and/or a plan, and someone to talk to about all of it was the catalyst to find the strength to move forward, giving me back the confidence that had been eroded over time my parenting instincts were not wrong, but I just needed some tools to move forward and recalibrate. I am so grateful to have found Megghan, truly.

-Amy F.

 

 

Before we worked with Megghan, our quality in family life was at an all-time low. We believe early intervention is key to preventing problems down the road. We were in therapy and it didn't seem to be working well. We were struggling on all things discipline. Every request had turned into a tantrum. Every disappointment was a tantrum and we couldn't go a day without hitting someone, sister or at school.
Now, he is able to talk to me about what was going on with his feelings instead of being Fort Knox. He is better at verbalizing [his feelings].
I am no longer crying every night worried that he was going to go down the wrong path. We experience much less stress. So much less yelling. [We’ve experienced] overall improvement in our family life. My husband and I were skeptical at first, but it's such a relief to know we have support.
-A., Texas, family of 5

 

 

We called Megghan when my preschooler was having a lot of meltdowns... right after Christmas the meltdowns jumped up to 20 plus per day. We knew we needed help. We chose to work with her because everything in the informational talk made sense to us in terms of how it would relate to our preschooler.
My preschooler and I have dramatically improved our relationship. We now have the sweet, fun relationship I'd always hoped we'd have. His meltdowns have also dramatically decreased. He's able to process his BIG emotions in a healthy way. And when he does meltdown or have BIG emotions, I feel fully equipped to help him through them.
I now have my sweet relationship with my son!!!!! And seeing him learn to deal with disappointment and avoid an OCD diagnosis!
We can have conversations at the dinner table!! We can now drive over 30 minutes from our home. We are planning to travel out-of-state for Christmas to see family. My preschooler can handle his BIG emotions!!! We are experiencing more and more meltdown-free days!
- D, age 42, family of 3 -Enrolled in Bootcamp January 2020, sent feedback 4/2/2020

 

 

We were at a loss as to what to do to help our Highly Sensitive Child cope with everyday tasks and the anger and shame he was feeling on a regular basis that led to him having severe meltdowns and intense emotions about himself, including the fact that he didn't think he deserved to be on this earth.
Once we went through bootcamp, we haven't seen any horrible meltdowns that lead to him saying he wants to leave the earth. When he does have a meltdown, we can get through it much faster and he's much more responsive with the strategies we've learned in bootcamp. Our family interactions are now more positive, and we can spend more time on having fun instead of managing our son's BIG emotions. His emotions toward us as parents has shifted drastically, and now that our relationship has been repaired and we are connecting on a regular basis throughout the day, when he does experience his big emotions he feels safe enough that he will allow us to help him through them.
The biggest benefit is that now our "toolbox" is full again of strategies that we know work, and we have more confidence as parents in how to help our child. We no longer experience the crippling anxiety of not knowing what to do to help our child when he's spiraling or having big emotions. We have faith in ourselves which in turn shows our son that we have faith in him that he can get through to the other side.

-S., Connecticut, family of 4

 

 

You came highly recommended by Ashley E. Prior to joining we were struggling with daily meltdowns multiple times a day. Daily I was feeling a sense of dread every morning I woke up, feeling like I didn’t understand how to help my child.
We hardly have any meltdowns now. We have the occasional emotional outburst, but haven’t had a meltdown in weeks. My daughter is able to remain calmer for longer periods of time, expressing that she is making an effort and we are able to communicate much more effectively. I understand her behavior much better now and feel so much closer to her. We feel like a team rather than adversaries.
I now understand my daughter better and she feels like she is understood.
After 8 weeks, this is what we have achieved so far:
Be able to discuss frustrations without shame talk…..Attend soccer practice without tears (still have an occasional emotional outburst but super short lived!)….Go through my days without feeling exasperated……No more hitting….No more kicking….Have a greater understanding of who my child is and how her brain works….Parent with confidence…Feel connected to [my daughter]…Sense her feeling connected and safe with me during hard moments. It’s possible for us to have fun together and not feel like we are all walking on eggshells.

-Jennifer L., California, family of 3, participated in Bootcamp during coronavirus

 

 

Prior to starting bootcamp, our HSC (age 4) was having meltdowns/tantrums many times a day. He was becoming increasingly aggressive toward our baby. I consider myself a pretty skilled parent, but we were just spinning our wheels. Each day was just putting out one fire after another and we were too emotionally exhausted to think.
Our HSC is getting better at understanding his feelings and communicating with us. In challenging situations he used to just freeze and then act out all his uncomfortable feelings later. Now he’s telling me what he feels and what he needs, and those challenging situations are still challenging.... but he can handle it! He is hitting his brother a few times a week instead of many times every day. I know this will continue to get even better as we continue to use the habits we’ve developed in bootcamp. Our HSC is playful, silly, creative, and engaging. Prior to bootcamp he was sad and mad almost all of the time. Before bootcamp our HSC would usually hit me if I told him “no” to something he wanted. Now he usually says “ok mom” and then just moves on!!!!!! I honestly wouldn’t believe this if I wasn’t seeing it with my own eyes.
Our family is really enjoying time together. Seeing my kids laugh and play together is so beautiful.
We enjoy family dinnertime, everyone sitting at the table together. We laugh and eat and talk about our days. Our HSC is able to go into a new/unknown situation and stay regulated. Our HSC is starting to try new foods. I can relax or do my own project while our kids play together, without worrying that our HSC will intentionally hurt his little brother. Our HSC is enjoying play dates!!!!!! He’s navigating social challenges with peers and persisting when it’s rocky. He is having a blast and isn’t melting down during or after play dates! It’s a breeze to wash our HSC’s hair now! Our HSC notices how he’s feeling and often knows what he needs and is able to communicate it to us clearly.
—Toni D., Washington, family of 4, participated in Bootcamp during coronavirus

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From “Helpless” to Capable Parents of Toddlers in a Pandemic

Our HSC has always been sensitive with big emotions, but we didn't know how to name it prior to meeting Megghan. Once COVID /shelter in place hit, my husband became a defacto stay at home dad while I continue(d) to work from home. This put even more of the responsibility than before, and as the main working parent, he's been more of the primary caregiver. Being home with our HSC (almost 4 at the time) and his sister (non-HSC, but almost 2) all day everyday was putting us both at our limit, and we didn't know how to navigate the situation; we just felt helpless.
I think we had conflicting ideas that this was a phase that our HSC was taking a really long time to grow out of (terrible twos, terrible threes, fearsome fours, etc) and at the same time wondering if this is how he'd always be, and there was no way to change it other than giving in, yelling, or letting his teachers do all the work. Switching the mindset that as his parents, it's OUR job to help him manage through the big feelings, not avoid them or make them feel better has really changed the outlook in our home. 
Coming to terms with the fact that I'm an HSP, I understand better why my HSC's most "annoying" traits bother me the most; because they're the traits about me that I don't like, or that I have learned to manage. So my relationship with my child has improved, and my relationship with my husband as well, since we're not as wiped from a full day of meltdowns.
The ability to access Megghan in crisis so I could troubleshoot in the moment was the #1 biggest benefit.
The support community was a huge benefit, but also unexpected. In Week 1, I didn't see the benefit of being with a group of people who started at a different time than I did, or had HSCs that were older than my child. I've come to find that seeing how far people had come for the ones who joined before us, and the seeing how people started out for the ones who joined after us was encouraging on both sides. And I found an accountabilibuddy who has been going through a very similar journey!
I now know we can go on outings (once it's safe). We know the signs of a meltdown and can go quickly to the strategy.  We try to celebrate the wins, however small, and see the benefit in the small gains adding up to bigger gains.
--J., New Jersey, family of 4
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I saw the advertisement for the free training and after listening thought that it sounded a lot like my daughter, age 11. I scheduled a call and it was like Megghan wrapped up our family life and described our daughter so perfectly after just 30 min of discussion. It hit home. We chose to go through the boot camp because I wanted my daughter to live up to her full potential and not freeze or hide her true self out of fear. Prior to joining, we struggled with her not wanting to try new things, freezing when coming up to something that was difficult and then resultant shame not being able to do something.
Prior to joining boot camp, resentment was probably my biggest mindset block. Knowing that she is smart and capable but not performing like she should. Unfortunately we as parents weren't speaking to the right side of her brain...
Since completing bootcamp, full blown meltdowns are rare. She is much less likely to hide or completely stop an activity. If she is frustrated, we can talk it out. We, as parents, can stay present (huge gain) and grateful. She is gravitating toward new and more challenging books (this was a struggle before). She stands taller and has more confidence in herself. Our relationship is calmer and I don't get stressed talking about emotions!
A huge AHA moment I had was learning that I probably share the HSP trait and that my emotional state has the biggest impact on her. I need to continue to work on me to help her thrive. We [as parents] stay calmer as a whole. We can manage our own emotions better. Also recognizing things that our daughter innately does that are beneficial for her and then supporting her in replicating them (ie drawing, etc).
We now have no stress at bedtime! It was a nightmare before! We witness her picking more challenging tasks and not shying away. She shows confidence with sleepovers (away from home). She’s verbalizing her needs. She’s able to play with her brother with less fighting.
M., Florida, family of 4, participated in Bootcamp during coronavirus
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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
Before joining Bootcamp, our 6 year old son was making “Just kill me" statements, exhibiting school refusal, and having meltdowns.
When we started, we struggled with believing that he was just being bad because he wanted to, and that he was by nature a disobedient and disruptive person.
Now, 8 weeks later, he only has meltdowns rarely. I feel like a good parent who isn't failing every day. I have a much better understanding of [my son’s] needs.
I’ve finally gained an understanding of my child's needs and how to address them effectively.
This wasn’t expected, however, he spontaneously asked to start sleeping in his own bed!
We’ve achieved the following results in Bootcamp:
No more "just kill me" statements. Rarely has meltdowns. No school refusal. Family dinners without screens. No threatening with utensils. No trashing the house. No fighting about getting off screens. No refusal to brush teeth. He takes quiet time when asked.
N., a dad from Illinois, joined Bootcamp fall of 2020, family of 4
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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
We chose to work with you because the HS trait is something we were completely unaware of until I saw an ad of yours on Facebook. I started receiving your emails and was always amazed at how closely they described our son. After speaking with you on the first call, we jumped in head first because we were dealing with multiple daily meltdowns and struggles that we just didn't know how to deal with because the traditional parenting strategies didn't seem to work for him. We also were hearing him say he didn't deserve anything or didn't deserve to live and from a 7 year old, that was incredibly scary.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
That he's just doing this to be difficult. That he's purposely doing things that are extreme to get reactions. We now know and understand that isn't the case.
Please share any concrete and/or measurable outcomes that you experienced as a result of this course:
For me, I have increased my understanding of [our son] so much more than I could have anticipated. I am not HS and was not aware something like this existed prior to a few months ago so it has been really eye opening. I think also accepting that [our son] has different needs from me as a parent has really strengthened our relationship and I've seen the changes in the relationship between [my husband/his dad] and him as well. We are also down to one, if any, meltdowns every day which is a huge improvement!
What would you say was the #1 biggest benefit for you in our work together?
Accepting that we don't need to parent the way everyone else does and even our own children need different things from us to be successful and have a good relationship.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
Learning more about the HS trait has helped me in learning more about my husband and our relationship. While I can't always employ the same strategies, it has helped us to recognize things between us that could be improved and how to improve them.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp? 
Now that there is more peace in our home, we are able to do more things and now have to worry about the stress of emotional outbursts or meltdowns every time we leave the house. We are able to enjoy our family time in the mornings and evenings with no fights or meltdowns to transition to school or bed respectively. We are able to have peace in our home like we never have before and there is so much less yelling from all parties.
—Jamie and John N., Maryland, family of four: parents of twin 7 year olds, one is HSC, joined Bootcamp fall of 2020
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The #1 reason we chose to work with you was your expertise in the highly sensitive child. I had done quite a bit of research on my own and although I understood [our oldest son’s] sensitivity, vulnerabilities and triggers well, I was at a loss on how to effectively set limits, handle meltdowns, alleviate his physical aggression and support him in a way where he didn't feel like a bad kid. We had tried to see local help starting around 4 yo and were frustrated with a general ignorance of the HSC trait and recommendations for methods we had tried that simply didn't work and made things worse. I found the Parent of HSC Ninja facebook and all of the videos I watched of Megghan described exact scenarios we were dealing with, struggles [he] was having and the disconnect we were feeling as a couple not backing each other up. I booked a call within 48 hours. We were struggling with safety and [our son’s] physical aggression toward his little brother as our top priority. We had just had a third baby and saw the physical aggression escalate again. We also had recently dealt with a falling out with a new nanny who was not skilled in handling [our HSC] and quite offended by his behavior toward her. I was at a loss of how to effectively communicate skills and strategies she could implement to manage his behavior. [He] was basically running our household based on his mood and we were walking on eggshells without effective ways to set limits and consequences. He also refused to talk to us about feelings and events leading up to the outbursts as he was repeatedly in shame spirals. When he started saying repeatedly he was the worst, a bad kid and didn't know what he was meant for, I knew we needed immediate help beyond what we were doing for him. In addition to the aggression, we have struggled with [him] following through with simple house expectations (asking to be excused, plate to sink after eating, shoes in cubby) and hygiene like brushing teeth, getting dressed, etc. Picky eating and poor eating habits have also been a concern.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
He is not giving us a hard time, he is having a hard time. We have had a strong assumption that [he] is being manipulative or hateful and physically aggressive (kicking, hitting) on purpose to hurt us and the relationship. We have a better understanding of the fight/flight/freeze response, impulsive behavior, what is developmentally appropriate and that he likely does not have full control of his body under these circumstances. We also understand that we are often the barrier to what he wants and anger is a secondary emotion and attempt to gain power when vulnerable. This has really helped me separate the "me" and my feelings out of the scenario of what is going on and to take things a lot less personally.
Our Results: Eliminating meltdowns. Vastly decreasing physical and verbal aggression and repeated attempts to choose effective behavior instead. [He] is able to name his emotions and name more of his emotions shortly after the moment rather then stuffing them and it has allowed us to help him better and work toward a solution together I have seen more genuine smiles and have had conservations that have opened me up to the world through my special son's eyes without his shutting down and being embarrassed or ashamed of his ideas I feel less fearful of being home alone or in public with [him] and his brother(s) as I feel more capable of handling them. My husband and I are backing each other up and discussing strategies on the same page rather than disagreeing and feeling we are not respecting the other's position when interacting with and setting consequences for [our HSC]. [Our 7 year old HSC] and [3.5 y.o son] are able to play together for extended periods of time without having to be hypervigilant and are starting to work through solutions together -it is wonderful to see their relationship as brothers blossom.
What would you say was the #1 biggest benefit for you in our work together?
Having the tools for both my husband and I to effectively and consistently set limits, validate our HSC and improve our relationship with our son. (#2 bonus- the insight I gained into my own childhood and life and all of the mindset work I was able to do for myself as a parent, in my career and in my other personal relationships)
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
As I mentioned last question, I didn't expect to have access to such support for myself and my own mindset. I had no idea how much my mindset, assumptions, emotional reactivity impacted my family, work and other relationships. Understanding that I can implement mindset practices to actually be capable of change in this capacity has opened up a whole new world and future for me rather than just having to accept that this is just the way I am going to be.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp? 
1. Being able to leave [HSC] playing with his brother and not constantly worry about safety 2. Both boys doing consistent quiet time daily which helps them and gives my husband and I a break 3. Our son turning off screens without ignoring us, screaming or throwing things 4. Being able to sleep without waking up with sick feelings of shame, fear, guilt as a parent 5. Feeling in control of staying calm and hanging in there with our HSC no matter what behavior he has.
 
-L. & J., Oregon, family of 5, joined Bootcamp fall of 2020

 

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We chose to work with you because all your email ads spoke our reality. We could not get over how much your messages hit the heart of different aspects of our struggle as parents and as a family. We were struggling with our son running off from home, not wanting to be with the family and him having really strong meltdowns that had gotten aggressive.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
Marcos: The assumption that our parenting style is just fine, we are not the problem. Raina: The block of we are just going to need to keep struggling through life as a family.
Please share any concrete and/or measurable outcomes that you experienced as a result of this course:
Neither child is tearing the house apart anymore! Our son no longer runs away from home, he hangs out with us for meals and happily chats, and his daily meltdown cycle has stopped. I feel so much more connected with both our children; I had this sense of losing emotional nearness to my son when our daughter was born and could not figure out how to have him feel loved and not feel so angry about having a sibling, but I know he feels our love now, even if he gets jealous once in awhile. We are aware of both our HSC's triggers now and can plan ahead to avoid some triggers or help them to work through triggers using our new skills.
What would you say was the #1 biggest benefit for you in our work together?
Marcos: The parenting tools: having an actual response method that works. Raina: Having a systematic approach which was empowering and action oriented.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
Yes, loads of them! Where to begin? 1. The emotional thawing out of our youngest HSC. 2. Strengthening of a personal mindset practice. 3. Better sleep for our daughter, age 4. 4. More peaceful play between the kids 5. Transformative emotional healing!
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp? (Recall your list of 20 when you started if you need a reminder :) What's possible now that you have more peace in your home?
We accomplished our whole list of 20 goals from when we started! We can enjoy family dinners, we can have fun together as a family, we can enjoy both kids simultaneously, we can relax, we can laugh more, we can trust our son, HSC, age 9, we get to love a lot more!
-Raina and Marcos L., Wisconsin, family of 4, joined Bootcamp fall 2020 for their 2 HSCs 
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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
Our child (age 9) didn't want to be alive, and the characteristics described in the initial video sounded like they fit. You sounded like you knew her - when no one else has understood.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
We thought she was being manipulative.
Please share any concrete and/or measurable outcomes that you experienced as a result of this course. 
Since week three, she has only discussed not wanting to be alive three times, and the caveat is that she said, but I'm not going to do anything about it (as in I'm staying put). Most of the dialogue has shifted to "life is so hard," " I want chore list to die." Her ruminations are for less time and she can sometimes shift to an activity without intervention. Improved relationships with her! She has worked to make friends. We understand her better; her brother understands her better. She can see things outside of herself sometimes now.
What would you say was the #1 biggest benefit for you in our work together?
We can imagine and now experience family life knowing that she can live without suicidal ideation. There is life beyond the bad feelings.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
She stopped wetting the bed! You turned us toward a pediatric nutritionist.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp? 
#1 Brushing hair is much better! #2 Hygiene: Both kids are taking showers when they come home from school to help keep dad safe. They are clean and it makes hair easier to brush! #3 We feel like she can manage situations away from home better and aren't so worried for her #4 Siblings have been playing together more peacefully and enjoying evenings together. #5 Not asking for as much reassurance that she is loved. It's a few times a week instead of a few times a day. #6 She has friends #7 She is willing to be by herself for quiet time. We are still working to lengthen the time, but she takes time by herself now without us suggesting it. #8 She does have healthier relationship with food AND it can get better. #10 Mom stopped yelling at Dad
-Rachel and Ash G., family of 4, Ohio, joined Bootcamp fall 2020
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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
Daily meltdowns, I was exhausted and regulating everyone’s nervous systems, [our 5 year old HSC] not knowing her own feelings (and talking about them spurred shame), and I was always bracing for the impact of a meltdown
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
I was feeling resentful of my husband for not “getting” it, and I felt so much guilt over not knowing how to help my own kid.
Please share any concrete and/or measurable outcomes that you experienced as a result of this course. *
 
I LIKE being around my daughter now now, and I even notice so many more qualities of her little face. Before, just looking at her would make me grit my teeth because I resented her and then I felt guilty for resenting her. She has experienced big feelings in the last two weeks, but she hasn’t had a meltdown in those two weeks despite plenty of triggering events. She’s starting to make voices for her toys and is playing make believe with them. She wasn’t doing this at all before, and she’s 5! The fact that what we’re doing has even shaped her independent play astounds me and is one of the most surprising concrete outcomes I’ve seen. My husband and I actually talk about the day’s events now and we strategize together. We were not communicating clearly or effectively before.
What would you say was the #1 biggest benefit for you in our work together?
I have tools to help my child help herself, and I know how those tools fit together. That was what I REALLY wanted before we started. It felt like I had so many “pieces” but didn’t know how they all fit. I understand how it all pieces together now, and I finally feel capable of assembling them. I really needed that confidence boost because I was feeling so defeated before we started this program.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
A change in her independent play. A change in how my husband and I communicate with each other. It feels like he understands me better than he did before, and I know how to advocate for my needs just like we’re teaching our daughter to advocate for hers.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp? (Recall your list of 20 when you started if you need a reminder :) What's possible now that you have more peace in your home?
I can work virtually with students at night and [our HSC] gives me a kiss before I get to work and is totally fine with me working. I even left for a massage the other day and she watched me as I left. I’ve actually gotten work done at night, and I can even go to bed earlier because I don’t feel so stressed out 24/7. I’ve been going to bed earlier some nights! Dad’s relationship with our daughter has improved significantly and it makes me want to cry happy tears. She will go to him for things now and not consistently expect me to do it for her even when he’s in the room. We went to a park and she didn’t melt down when we left. She wasn’t happy about leaving, but she still cooperated and left. She handled one of her dizzy spells by herself!! Can explain how clothes don’t fit right and can adjust based on physical needs. She gets herself into the car seat and all situated so that she doesn’t have a wedgie. She’s been going to bed at a decent hour most nights. She will even fall asleep in the middle of her sister still being awake and making noise. She took a nap in the middle of the day! There are more moments of problem solving versus resorting to violence. This wasn’t happening at all before.
-Danielle and Jeff W., Maryland, family of 4; joined Bootcamp in fall 2020

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What was the #1 reason you chose to work with us? 
The number one reason I chose to work with you was because my daughter was out of control. The introduction video described her perfectly in almost every way. She was physically and verbally aggressive, sad, angry, dysregulated at the drop of a dime and uncontrollable in ways that caused me to call the police due to being afraid of our safety. I was struggling to understand WHY she feels the need to behave this way.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
My biggest mindset shift/block was that she really and truly could not control her behavior on her own. I had heard this before as she has struggled with her emotions for a long time, and had seen many therapists. I knew logically, but didn't know how I should be responding to knowing this. I assumed that if we just talked about it enough or with the right person that she would be able to work it out.
Please share any concrete and/or measurable outcomes that you experienced as a result of this course. 
Weeks 1- 4 especially brought her and I closer together in a way that felt like us. We had so many heart to heart conversations about the past, the future, why some things happened. Just deep, meaningful conversations. Her mood in general during those weeks shifted, like we had hoped things were going to get better, they were, they are. Even her brother mentioned she was easier to be around. We understood each other on a different level.
What would you say was the #1 biggest benefit for you in our work together?
The biggest benefit of our work together is the confidence I have gained through learning to help my highly sensitive child navigate this world. I CAN do it. There is a plan that should work, that will work. It may need some adjustments and I will definitely need help along the way, but I now know that I am not alone and have been guided to the right resources even outside of this group to help us along the way.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?What's possible now that you have more peace in your home?
We really did accomplish SO many goals. She has run errands with her brother, we have gone on many drama free adventures, one big one was a family picture. That was a really special day. We went on a few long walks, had many long talks where she shared her feelings comfortably. We had many special days that I will remember and cherish forever.
 -Ivy B., family of 3; Illinois, joined Bootcamp in fall 2020
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We made the decision to work with you because all of your videos described our daughter 100%! Everything!
Prior to joining bootcamp, I thought my daughter was very dramatic over everything.
Since joining, I learned that she is truly struggling and not just being dramatic. Meltdowns are less and duration is much shorter. A pleasant surprise is our relationship has improved 100%. She’s sharing more with us!!
A huge AHA moment was that I did not realize our relationship needed improvement and that I was not calm, so both areas have improved tremendously!!
Now we actually have fun and laugh instead of every moment of the day being difficult. She does not negotiate anymore, is not argumentative and will typically follow through with what is needed without a possible meltdown that could last hours. She’s beginning to stand up to her friend and also is talking to us openly more now. I’ve learned to be more aware of areas she struggles and help her navigate them. My calm has increased 100% in being able to help her when she’s struggling. Confidence has also increased drastically in knowing how to help her.
 -Michelle & Rusty B., family of 3; joined Bootcamp in fall 2020
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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
The sudden and uncontrollable emotional outbursts that our daughter had.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
M: That the explosions were unpredictable.
E: She enjoyed feeding into her emotions.
Please share any concrete and/or measurable outcomes that you experienced as a result of this course. 
E: My daughter almost never directs her anger towards me now even when I am needing her to change her behavior/do something she doesn't want to do. She still gets angry at times, but not in a way that manifests in physical violence to me. 
M: She has a much longer "fuse" and meltdowns have much quicker recovery. There also seems to be longer stretches between big meltdowns. 
What would you say was the #1 biggest benefit for you in our work together?
E: Approaching more calmly and monitoring my tone/expressions has been huge. Even delivering stern rebukes but with a neutral delivery are now taken more graciously. Also acknowledging her emotions has enabled us to talk about emotions, and she is now very receptive when I let her know that I am actually really frustrated. It's strangely helped her seem to understand our feelings better as well. 
M: She can verbally identify her emotions and what is bugging her and talk about it. She can even trouble shoot on her own now.
 -E. and M., family of 4, Florida; joined bootcamp in fall 2020
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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
Daily extreme meltdowns and aggression towards siblings.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
We were very skeptical that this program would work. I've read a lot of parenting books. I assumed this wouldn't work either and he would continue to struggle the rest of his life.
Our results: There is almost zero physical violence against his sisters. Meltdowns are less severe. Our relationship has improved and we understand his needs better. He is using strategies learned more frequently.
My own mindset has changed tremendously. When I am in a good head space and am mindful of my own emotions, it can change the entire mood of the house.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
My other children (not HSCs) have been using the tools we have been practicing. Everyone thinks emotions are fun and are talked about daily.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
There are no fist fights between siblings! After meltdowns it takes way less time to bounce back. We don't argue nearly as much. We can include littlest sister in games with her "own rules" so we all can have fun without meltdowns. We actually have fun and enjoy each other in our house!
- Sarah & Josh N., Illinois, joined Bootcamp Winter 2020
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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
Lessening my daughter's meltdowns
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
I think we overcame many things. One being that both my husband and I needed to work on our mindset and not let things get to us. We have basically overcome it and are noticing huge wins and DEFINITELY less meltdowns from our daughter.
Our results: My daughter is even noticing she is handling disappointments and not getting things her way much better than in the past. A big WIN last night was that [my husband] came home with dinner and [my 10 y.o. HSC] didn't like the way it looked and refused to eat. Normally she would have had a meltdown but went upstairs and asked I could make her eggs instead. No whining, no complaining!!!!
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
Less meltdowns!!! Yes, having [my HSC] care more about others, not just herself.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
I feel we can go to a dinner out without having a meltdown or at least know how to stop it before it happens.
- L. & S., Florida, joined Bootcamp Winter 2020
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My main reason for reaching out for support was because I could see that my son lacked the skills to deal with his big emotions and that our attempts as parents to teach him those skills were failing. I was very worried that if we did not act now, his skill deficit would grow and he would someday face thoughts of self-harm or suicide. I watched a video about the mission of this program and knew this was what Megghan and her team do and that this was the right fit for us. Before we joined, we struggled with physical aggression, setting limits confidently, our son making scary threats to hurt himself and others, and feeling like he might seriously injure his younger brother. As parents we also argued about how to handle the situations because of the level of stress we were under.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
Reassurance is not the answer. This was so difficult for me to grasp because I love the feeling of being reassured and I know that my son does too. I also realize this is not a long term solution. I thought that in order for him to get through tough emotions he always needed that reassurance, yet I learned that he can do hard things. And I can handle his discomfort and do hard things too.
Our results:
- Lengthened fuse: [Our 5 y.o HSC] has had up to 3 days without major physical aggression 
- Increased insight with understanding that anxiety is the root of both physical aggression and frenetic energy. 
- Increased number of days with calm parent responses 
- Increased understanding of importance of preparation, preplanning and predictability for [our HSC]
#1 biggest benefit for you in our work together?
Our family now has a plan that we can follow and a system we know that works from people we know are experts who we trust.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
I found a new career goal in my journey...coaching! As I went through this program and experienced the benefits of what coaching offers that I had not been offering my clients in therapy, I realized that my passion would be better suited in coaching. I am excited to work toward a new career!
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
Some of our goals we have not been able to try due to Covid 19; however, [our 5 y.o. HSC] did try to shovel a little with [Dad] and was able to do that for a few minutes. [Dad] was able to make a phone call to his parents yesterday actually and we had a Zoom birthday party just this weekend. These are things that we struggled to do before.
- Laura & Steve S., Michigan, joined Bootcamp Winter 2020
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S- I wanted a happier family life. I wanted to gain confidence as a parent, and thrive, rather than barely survive it. I really struggled with liking my kids. And enjoying them. Mom guilt. Negative self talk.

A- Felt like we needed help. Fostering independent kids, and meltdowns.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?

S- Mindset was this is just how it is, it sucks, my kid doesn't like me, they are not enjoyable. I assumed he was choosing the hard, and over sensitive.
 A- The kids were becoming jerks. That they just needed to toughen up.
Our results: S- Better understanding of HSC. I personally feel less panic... And yes, relationships have improved some. I don't think [5 y.o. HSC]  has hit in weeks! I can't remember the last time it happened. Also he hasn't screamed as much.

A- Fewer meltdowns per week. More cooperation.
#1 biggest benefit for you in our work together?
S- Mindest meetings!

A- The specific rules and practices laid out.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
S- better mindself for myself. I didn't know this would be a lot of work on myself. I needed it, and loved changing my mindset! (My hubby says I take better care of myself and am in a better mood)

A- enjoying role playing and games with the kids. That the methods were effective so quickly.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
Reduce everyone's anxieties and stress. Big things will be less hard. Have more energy. Feel confident as a parent, less helpless. Feel more confident about their future. Let go of the guilt/shame I feel. Have more patience, rather than a short fuse. and a few others we feel close to.
- S. & A., Illinois, joined Bootcamp Winter 2020
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We were living in a state of exhaustion, stress, and worry. Your FB ad with the girl under the desk caught my attention because that was literally happening here. As I started getting your emails and watching videos, I saw [our 9 y.o. HSC] and our family in every single one of them in some way. I finally shared a video with [my husband] that I knew would resonate with him. Then we were on the phone with Devon about 2 days later signing up for Bootcamp and feeling hopeful for change! Before bootcamp, we were struggling with daily meltdowns that were getting bigger and bigger. Even [our HSC] expressed that she had big feelings and she didn't know what to do when they took over. We wanted to help her, but we couldn't figure out how.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
I think we just felt like we were stuck and like that was the way it was going to be for our family. I also worried about how much worse it could get for [our HSC]  and what we would encounter as she got older. We have seen so many changes already since starting Bootcamp. Now we believe that [our HSC] can feel her big emotions and learn how to move through them and dissipate them and that we can do the same. We believe that so much more positive change is in store for our family.
Our results: * We have gone from daily meltdowns to maybe one every week and a half to two weeks. * Daily mindfulness practice for me (Mom) which has helped so much more than I could have imagined. * Purposefully being present during time with family and enjoying that time more. * We went from school refusal during online school to having mostly positive days at in person school after the first couple weeks of transition.
#1 biggest benefit for you in our work together?

I think the work on our mindfulness and mindsets as parents have had the biggest impact for us. So many things started changing even in the first couple weeks as we changed the way we approached situations by slowing down and noticing our emotions in our bodies.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
Again, the mindfulness we have learned and the adjustments to our mindsets. It was a surprise how much changing those things affected so much the dynamic of the family. We look forward to continuing to work on this growth as we move forward.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?

* Looking at our list, #1 was to look forward to the day instead of dreading what was to come. This is huge! I was waking up every morning for months with a knot in my stomach and a tight chest, so worried to face the day. That is not happening anymore! On the rare occasion it does, I am able to quickly determine what it is about that day I am feeling stress about and either coach my way through it [and use the skills you taught us]. This may be my favorite result of Bootcamp and it is absolutely tied to so many of the other changes. * Another thing on our list was date nights - we have been out to dinner by ourselves twice since Bootcamp started. * Better rest for all of us with [our HSC] sleeping through the whole night. Before Bootcamp, she was waking up several times a week and often not able to get back to sleep at all after waking up as early as 4 in the morning. Now, she sleeps through the night more often than not. When she does wake up, she is able to get back to sleep so much faster. * Starting mornings without drama - this has become the case more often than not. Mondays are still hard, but even this Monday was better than the last few. *Dad being able to help with [our HSC] while Mom is at home without [our HSC] seeking out Mom. Dad's work at being fully present and more playful has made a huge difference and [our HSC] is even seeking out time with him sometimes. This is just a few. As I look at our list, I see that we have already accomplished several of the goals we listed, and I can see the others coming!
- M. & H., Texas, joined Bootcamp Winter 2020
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R -I had tried so many positive parenting strategies and it felt like nothing was working. I could see [my 5 y.o HSC’s] emotions becoming more and more out of control. Consequently mine were as well. I felt like I couldn't give him what he needed. I was starting to build a pretty big feeling of resentment towards him. And my husband and I were nowhere near on the same page with our parenting.
M - Meltdowns  everyday.
The biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
R - I thought [our HSC]l was always going to be angry, and that I'd never be able to help him.

M - That [our HSC] couldn't handle things
Our results: R -We went from meltdowns every day to a 9 day meltdown free streak around week 7!! And when we had some outbursts after that streak those moments of upset looked nothing like they used to! The length went from hours to minutes literally, and the intensity was about 20 percent of the original meltdowns!
M - We have cut meltdowns back and the ones we do have are short lived and less intense
What would you say was the #1 biggest benefit for you in our work together?
R - The mindset stuff. I knew I needed help before I could help him. I went from crumbling and withering around his big emotions to remaining calm and present with a straight face and tools and skills ready to be used in the moment.

M - Learning how to stay calm
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
R - An improved understanding of my own mom. I felt a very unexpected patience for her. And she told me she noticed it too.
M - Better relationship with my wife
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?

R - I was really starting to worry about [our infant daughter]. Helping [our HSC] with these meltdowns was so time consuming!! Literally I'd have to set down the baby and she would be all by herself until I could attempt to calm him down. Now I feel like she is safe, she is more a part of us, I can give her the attention she needs too, and I can enjoy both kids.

M - More peaceful transitions with big events
- Rochelle & Matt, joined Bootcamp Spring 2021
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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
C - We just couldn’t keep doing what we were doing with constant whining and meltdowns. It was exhausting for all of us.

M - we knew we needed help. [Our 4 y.o. HSC] was having multiple meltdowns every day and it caused everyone to walk on eggshells, hoping to not trigger her. The biggest struggle was her sleep, but also her big emotions that we did not know how to help her through
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
C - I thought she was just being difficult and overreacting almost on purpose and now I know it’s truly how she feels and processes things.

M - I just thought she was really difficult and cranky - and rather than being empathetic I would mostly disregard her and not engage.
Our results:
C - Less meltdowns, improved bedtime and goodbyes with less anxiety, our relationship is definitely better, less violence and aggression.

M (dad) - meltdowns are not fully eliminated but the frequency and intensity especially has reduced significantly. It’s rare we can’t help her through a meltdown once she’s there. I personally feel like my relationship has increased greatly with her, which I’m extremely grateful for - she trusts me more and we can share more experiences together! I also realize now that she acts the way she does because she experiences the world differently than others and accepting that was pivotal- complete mind shift when we started!

What would you say was the #1 biggest benefit for you in our work together?

C - Mindset. Both my mindset around [our HSC’s] situation and my mindset about myself.

M - [Our HSC] engages with me when she’s in distress or has big feelings she can’t control. Knowing that she trusts me has been number 1.

Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?

C - The mindset stuff for myself. Understanding my situation and needs as an HSC and just feeling better about myself even outside of being a mother.

M - My wife and I have always valued communication and have worked to improve upon it over the years, but I felt the course definitely benefited us from that perspective, which I was not expecting.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?

C - More activities and enjoyed outings. More sleep. Not walking on eggshells. We’ve seen almost everything on our list once and many things we see regularly.

M - We checked a lot of those boxes! But two in particular are going to bed at ease and saying goodbye easier - those are game changers

- Candace & Mike, Massachusetts, joined Bootcamp Spring 2021
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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
B: Needed to find a path to break the periodic major meltdowns that brought the entire family down, shame cycle, and worries about eruptions/future. Struggled with physical aggression, shame cycle, and not having confidence in how best to make progress on the challenges.
P: Fearful of my children's future as well as a sense of chaos within my own life as a mother.
The biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
B: Overall understanding, appreciation for, and acceptance of HSPs along with optimism on having a path and being able to be intentional about developing skills to address challenges. Lack of awareness on how our own mindset and actions were contributing to challenges.
P: My assumption that he was 'doing it on purpose' rather than 'having a hard time.' 
Our results:
B: No major meltdowns that brought the entire family down. Big reduction in shame and very limited physical barrier/restrain required. Improved connection, emotional availability and overall relationships. Better understanding of HSPs in our family along with triggers and needs.
P: Working with my husband and using the same template to parent our kids has been extremely helpful. My relationship with my husband is better because he now understands me and our children's HSP qualities. For my younger son, his fuse has definitely lengthened (when we say "no"), he rarely hits his brother when angry, and he doesn't have as many meltdowns. For my older son, he has been working on expressing his feelings rather than hiding them.
What would you say was the #1 biggest benefit for you in our work together?
B: Understanding and appreciation for HSPs and skills to practice and learn to support the needs of our family with mindset work and validation being key foundations.
P: My own self-discovery as an HSP
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
B: Mindset work and identifying ways in which I contribute to challenges along with strategies to work on to be more supportive and nurturing of HSPs and our relationships.
P: Being mindful transcends being a more present, prepared parent to being a present, prepared individual.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
B: Reduced worry about eruptions when not at home and the future; limited shame and very little use of physical barrier/restraint; common approach and playbook with [my wife]; longer fuse for [8 y.o. HSC] with outdoor play and activities with friends; [8 y.o. HSC] has more confidence in his ability to manage his emotions; work outside without worry about [our] boys inside.
P: The kids can play a video game together and we can role play when there is an argument. I can garden outside by myself. [8 y.o. HSC’s] reactions have a lower peak in the bell curve and I don't worry as much about him as I did in the past. We no longer use physical restraints. Home is a safe place for all family members.

- B. & P., family of 4, Minnesota, joined Bootcamp Spring 2021 for their 8 y.o. HSC 
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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
I was exhausted. I didn’t want to be a mom anymore because I didn’t feel like I was any good at it. I had no hope for the future.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
I felt like most of her behavior was manipulating me to get what she wanted. I knew I didn’t want her to turn out like me, but I really didn’t think there was hope for us to actually gain tools to help all of us.
Our results: Seeing her emotions in the light of what she is experiencing is huge. Learning the steps it takes to get to a goal. Having both girls verbally express their emotions is huge.
I gained so much from having access to the help desk. It was the boots on the ground applications that kept us from crashing and not getting back up!
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
My own personal mindset shift and truly beginning the process of healing from my past and moving towards using my highly sensitive emotions for the good of my family.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
We made it on an 8 hr drive without meltdowns! [My 7 y.o. HSC]  is using her imagination. She has sang and done poems for us and a few select family members. Mine and [Dad]’s communication has greatly improved as parents and as spouses which was a great bonus.
- Savannah & Alan K., Georgia, joined Bootcamp Spring 2021
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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
We were at our wits end with meltdowns, anger and a constant battlefield in our home. We struggled with [our 8 y.o. HSC] expressing himself in ways other than anger, with completing day to day tasks and with not having a relationship with him.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
Assuming this was all related to his ADHD/ODD diagnosis. That we would need to continue medication adjustments, counseling and still not having the outcomes we want.
Our results: The greatest outcome is our realization that we as parents needed to change our way of interacting with our son and accepting him as a HSC. In doing that, we are seeing the drop in "defiant" behavior. We're recognizing triggers for him and seeing him happier.
The #1 biggest benefit: Our own mindfulness. We're better parents for understanding our needs and our HSC’s needs.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
Less anxiety for me (Mom). I have become more mindful in what triggers my anxiety and the effect that has on our son.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
We're still getting there but have seen more good days than rough- our HSC has been able to listen to our requests and we work together to get things done without argument. He's even started to do some of those day to day things by himself without being reminded 100 times !

- J.& C. Hess, joined Bootcamp Spring 2021
What were you struggling with prior to joining?
We were nearing desperation. Not because of unmanageable behavior (the hitting & scratching were getting bad but at 4 we weren’t out of control yet), but because we felt we were on the precipice of things getting a lot worse and for fear of the future. I was searching for help once I discovered “highly sensitive” as a personality trait and couldn’t find any more than books about the trait - no action plans or real life help for what we were struggling with. Then I came across MTC on Facebook.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
My biggest assumption was that [our 4 y.o. HSC]  is overly dramatic. It just didn’t seem possible for every rock in her shoe, slightly too hot meal, tiny boo boo etc, could be THAT big of a deal. Now I realize that yes, to her, they are all a big deal. And the more I treat them as such (instead of brushing her off), her reactions get smaller.
Our results: We have gone from multiple daily meltdowns to 2-3 a week. We feel much more able to handle what comes up.
The #1 biggest benefit: Our confidence in managing what our HSC throws at us and feeling like we have ongoing support for anything that may pop up
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
Becoming more comfortable talking to our HSC about death when that topic popped up. Toni (our coach) was so helpful.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
I was very nervous about our family trip to San Diego in September - we will be visiting family who will be so excited to meet/see our HSC and it will be overwhelming. I feel like we know how to prep her, help her through it and remove her from anything she can’t handle.
- B. & B. Braddy, North Carolina, joined Bootcamp Spring 2021

 

What were you struggling with prior to joining?
We were struggling with constant meltdowns and a variety of sensory issues related to anxiety.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
My biggest mindset block was that she had the skills to do what she should be doing and that she was choosing to (not wear bottoms/be afraid of the toilet/not control herself)
Our results: I have a drastically improved relationship with my child. I sense she has a greater sense of security. She is willing to talk about behaviors and is more aware of how her body is feeling in the moment. She has started not only wearing bottoms but doing so on her own. She uses public toilets and I see her facing her fear as she does so, however she has the skills and support to do so now. We haven't had a meltdown for weeks. She understands that some ways are positive and will help, while other ways don't help in the long run even if they feel satisfying in the moment.
The #1 biggest benefit: Bringing joy back to our family.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
I had a lot of personal insights as to who I had become as a parent over the last eight years. Some of them were positive and some of them were things I wanted to change about how I interacted with both of my children.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
We can go places and do things without worrying about what will happen. We aren't limited by our HSC's mood or self restrictions. We are optimistic that we can handle challenges. We achieved many of our list of 20! A few will need to wait until we can travel again.
 
- K. & K. M., joined Bootcamp Summer 2021
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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
I had no idea how to calm my daughter (or myself) down during meltdowns.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
I was making meltdowns about me and that my child was having them to make me mad or to just be dramatic.
Our results: Huge decrease in negative talk from my daughter. Meltdowns are way less intense and happen less often. Reconnecting with my daughter with meaningful conservations.
The #1 biggest benefit: Everything! :-) Giving me the skills I needed to be the best parent for my HSC.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
I was amazed at how quickly I saw results from minor changes. I also didn't expect such a big change in myself with my new mindset.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
I don't dread going home at night. I don't dread asking my daughter to get ready for school. Peaceful nights. More laughter in the house. Actual communication. Really getting in tune with my daughter. I think we can tackle anything with our new skills. The skies are the limit!
- J.D., Illinois, joined Bootcamp Summer 2021
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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
We knew we needed help with our parenting strategies that had not worked for our HSC child for so long. Prior to joining we were struggling with major physical aggression (hitting/punching/scratching) towards younger siblings. We were struggling with meltdowns here and there but mainly angry outbursts/yelling. And just daily oppositional behavior which negatively affected our relationship with our HSC. We were also struggling with how to handle our child's anxiety levels.
 
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
My biggest mindset block was struggling to understand why my child's anger was specifically taken out only on me/his brother. This went on for a year so my mental and emotional health began to decline and the assumptions about my child began to be that he was being hateful, his behavior would not change, and I began to have anger and resentment towards him. This caused my mindset to fall into the deepest/darkest place. After bootcamp, I am in such a better place with my mindset. Yes, I still have struggles but now that I have the new skills/strategies, I am able to handle them more effectively so that it does not cause a hindrance between my relationship with my child.
 
Our results: We went from 4-5 physical hits/punches a day, to none. Every now and then there may be a small spat/shove but more like what you would see with normal sibling conflicts. We went from having several times in a day where my child would have an outburts/yell or tantrum in an ineffective way. Now he has one small moment every other day and they are very short and not near as intense.
 
The #1 biggest benefit: Shift in Mindset!!
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
I was not expecting my child to actually be open to suggestions I would make or actually allow me to start helping him. For example, prior to bootcamp, he would refuse to let me help learn to breathe but now he is open to working with me on it.
 
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
My biggest goal was the he be able to go to school with excessive worries and actually look forward to going. And he does! Another goal was no more physical aggression/resentment toward his sibling Another big goal is that we have more ease with day to day requests and activities. No longer arguing about bedtime, brushing teeth, going to sleep, what he wants for snack etc. I can now take both of my boys out for errands or to eat without it being really hard. We are able to enjoy each other more. A lot of this has to do with my mindset.
 
- K. & P. Merritt, Alabama, joined Bootcamp Summer 2021.

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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
I had followed some of your free training online and kept thinking about the next step. After our first call with Toni, it felt good to be understood and to know that we would always have access to help along the way. Before boot camp we were struggling with huge and frequent meltdowns, aggressive behavior and lack of self confidence. Our communication was lacking between all family members as well.
 
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
Our biggest assumption was that she was rebelling and being oppositional with us. We had not realized that she felt that much shame. We did not know that we could feel our feelings in our body, that was a big eye opener for us as parents.
 
Our results: We have noticed that her fuse is getting longer, she has gone 5 days without hitting or being aggressive. She can now stop herself from being aggressive when her routine is the same. We have also been communicating more effectively with each other. Feelings were never talked about casually and they are now. We also understand her triggers and can be more playful and creative to diffuse the situation. We validate on a daily basis and see the positive effects.
 
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
More communication with my husband.
- S. & N. G., joined Bootcamp Summer 2021

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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
I chose to work with you because I felt you understood my HSC and me (an HSP) when no one else had. Prior to joining, I was struggling with feeling hopeless, frustrated, angry, and trapped with regards to my HSC's frequent blowups and meltdowns.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
My biggest mindset block was my belief that my son was angry at me and that's why he was having blowups and meltdowns, and that he should be able to be in control of these things.
Our results: As a result of this course, my understanding of my child's needs is much, MUCH better! And my own needs as well, as an HSP. Our relationship is improving, I'm feeling much less responsible for both of our behaviour and emotions, and he's having fewer blowups and meltdowns.
The #1 biggest benefit: Learning from people who understand HSCs and are realistic/understanding about the challenges of parenting HSCs.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
I didn't expect to realize I'd been totally misinterpreting some things about my son, or to learn so much about him and myself as HSPs.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
I'm much less tense, walking on eggshells, experiencing dread than I was before. I'm not as exhausted once my son is in bed, and I feel more capable and hopeful about life.

- A.G., Joined Bootcamp Summer 2021

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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
Your program identified everything we had been experiencing with our daughter and you offered a structured plan to improve our situation. We were struggling with being on the same page with discipline/communication, not knowing how to help her overcome her anxiety/panic "freezing", providing gentle support when she had meltdowns and basic daily routines. with regards to my HSC's frequent blowups and meltdowns.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
That she is choosing to be difficult, that her actions are conscious and she knows how to be manipulative. Once we understood what was driving it, everything changed. We assumed she would "grow out of it" or that she had something actually wrong with her (like a diagnosis.)
Our results: Severely shortened tantrums (when they occur now it's also much less frequent.) Ability to use her words appropriately during conflict. Her gaining trust in us (still working on it) and overcoming daily power struggles.
The #1 biggest benefit: The change in mindset and even verbiage we used when describing her challenges. When you or the team would call me out on how I explained scenarios to help me see I was still making assumptions. One on one coaching during calls and help desk. Direct plan to help us with detailed problems specific to our child. Finally not feeling alone!
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
Improved relationship with my husband and improved ability to communicate with our other younger child.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
We still have not achieved many of the 20 goals unfortunately but I would say the biggest achievement is the change of tone in the house, NOT walking on eggshells daily, able to "live life" more without constant chaos and worry.
- N.& Z, B., joined Bootcamp Summer 2021

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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
We chose to work with you because we were having a hard time figuring out how to calm our daughter down when she was having big emotions. She has always had a hard time regulating her emotions and we were afraid that if we didn't start helping her now that it would affect her ability to interact with peers and to do well in school.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
The biggest block was my belief that these meltdowns might be back bad behaviors and that she might be manipulating us. I was stuck on the idea that she just wanted control of every situation. Now I look at it differently and I understand that she is struggling and that even if she does want control, it's not malicious or manipulative, but it's a way to assuage her anxiety and fears. She's having a difficult time.
Our results: The primary outcome I've achieved so far is a better understanding of her needs and an increase in patience. I notice this on a daily basis. Also, I've noticed that [our HSC] is starting to recognize her feelings and our feelings more. She is able to name feelings. We still have a lot of work to do, but we're definitely heading in the right direction.
The #1 biggest benefit: The #1 biggest benefit so far is an improvement in my own mindset when it comes to [our HSC], which has led to an improved relationship with her. Also, my husband and I are on the same page and can talk about the wins more.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
I'm not sure - maybe a shift in our priorities? Our first priority is now to help [our HSC] recognize emotions and work through them rather than to try to rescue her from them.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
She goes into school with no fight. She has also been able to handle limitations when shopping when I won't buy her multiple toys. She also is willing to bathe or wash every day. We also signed her up for a dance class starting in January with 2 of her friends from school. We're hopeful that it goes well.
- M. & M. B., joined Bootcamp Summer 2021

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What were you struggling with prior to joining?
Daily meltdowns and nothing else worked. The constant yelling, meltdowns, hitting, fighting, and blaming that went on among everyone in the family.
What would you say was your biggest mindset block or assumption about your child or about what's possible for your family that you have overcome?
I'm still working on this, but the timeline for when the meltdowns or hitting will stop. The fear that it won't stop makes me think this will go on forever and [my HSC] won't move forward. Focusing on my skills helps me to not worry about a "due date" but keep working towards the goal.
Our results: Definitely improved relationships with both the children at home. [My HSC] verbalizes his feelings more often and what his needs are. I am also able to validate and not lecture with my 13 y.o. HSC and she has opened up a lot more. As far as meltdowns, in the month of September we prevented 10+ meltdowns, October 40+ meltdowns were avoided, and this month (November) we have deescalated about 7 times so far. I am definitely looking at my children differently in the way they speak or use their body language and am able to think what they are really struggling with or trying to tell me.
The #1 biggest benefit: Mindset work. Learning to be a thermostat I am calm in my body 90% of the time. I've learned to feel my feelings and no one is going to implode. I can move through them and let them be. Not being the mom that yells all the time.
Were there any unexpected results you achieved from this program?
I did not anticipate so much work on myself. So many insights about myself, why I react certain ways and that there are 3 HSPs in our house. I think I got more out of these 10 weeks than a year of family therapy and a year of marriage counseling. The mindset work has really helped me turn the lens inward to work on myself first to help lead my family to a more peaceful future.
What dream goals have you accomplished during Bootcamp?
I go most days without yelling. [Our HSC] doesn't fight me to use soap during bath time. He did have a friend come to our house AND he went to a friend's house without a meltdown. [Our HSC]  is getting more confident in his abilities.

- Crystal & Brad Parsons, joined Bootcamp Summer 2021

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