Based on my experience working with children with explosive behaviors either due to a severe trauma history or mismatched parenting dynamic over the past 11 years, and in my awareness and training of the research on sensitive children, the mental health system is not just broken in serving this population, it can be quite destructive.
I say that because I’ve spoken to and served parents around the world in my career who struggle to support their children with big emotions and who have trusted the mental health system to serve their family to greater peace in their home and they are left empty-handed. I have personally also lost 2 family members to suicide, and another to severe drug addiction, and have a 4th family member who still struggles with intense emotions so I know this space intimately.
In my practice we serve families and children with explosive behaviors as young as 2 via tele-mental health, and have done so consistently years before the pandemic.
If you’re a parent who is certain your child is an HSC, and have been trying to stop the daily meltdowns or lasting irritability…
There’s a hard way to create peace, and there’s a fun way to create peace in your home.
The hard way is the ‘random research’ model.
Reading, Googling, and listening to all sorts of books, podcasts and videos is exhausting, costs time, money and is draining on your whole family.
You’ll need to sustain your child’s attention for every coping skill you teach…and eventually your HSC will stop trying with you. And you (and your spouse) will resort to yelling, ignoring, walking on eggshells, and punishing.
But there is also a fun way.
The fun way is through play, validation, and by breaking down shame gently for your child.
Play is the language of children, it’s the only way to actually teach a child and expect your child to retain the information.
Children don’t change their...
This morning as I woke up grateful for family snuggles with my 3 year old.
I was also acutely aware that many black families don’t have that privilege without a worry in the back of their mind of when their child’s innocence will be robbed.
Robbed of the safety of walking down the street.
Robbed from speaking up without threat to their life.
Robbed from life.
As our country sits divided, it is my privilege and honor to speak up against racism.
Because to me there’s no line in the sand when it comes to racism.
Our children need us to lead them to notice their emotions and recognize how to process them, without letting their opinions cloud their judgment or impulsivity.
That’s the core skill deficit for those who cannot listen to people who are hurting, and instead choose to refute and invalidate the experiences of others.
And that is a DEADLY skill deficit.
So, as a white business owner, I speak out. This is not a political issue. This is a life or death issue....