Sensory Issues Causing Struggles?

hsc parenting Oct 13, 2022
 

A stressed out Mom posted this in our Facebook group recently:

“Has anyone else ever discovered clothing to be a really hard issue with your HSC?”

“I’m about to lose my mind finding clothing that works and my son will wear. Does anyone have any tips?

I just ordered the same exact pants he’s worn for months and he put them on and immediately threw them off because they didn’t feel right.

I’m thinking maybe because they were new and hadn’t been washed a ton of times yet?”

Now, I know this is a common issue, because we see it in our coaching practice a lot.

But I gotta be honest, the response to the post shocked me.

Because even I was amazed how many parents said they deal with this, too.

From issues like not wanting to wear anything new, because it felt weird …

To refusing to wear any socks with seams …

Even not wanting to wear clothes that were too dirty … Or too clean!

People were commenting like there was no...

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Meltdowns Making You Embarrassed?

Do you ever feel embarrassed by your kid’s behavior?

If so … You’re not alone.

Being embarrassed is a normal part of parenting.

But with an HSC, that embarrassment can be on another level.

Not only do embarrassing situations crop up more frequently …

They can also be way more intense.

So it’s normal to spend a lot of your time feeling red-faced, ashamed, and worrying that everyone’s looking at you.

Or worse … Judging you.

Believe me, here at my coaching practice, we’ve heard it all.

From kids ramming carts into displays when grocery shopping, because they didn’t get their way …

To having screaming incidents in the middle of church …

Or even cursing at random strangers.

And, while most kids grow out of this naturally, that’s definitely not the case with HSCs.

Even the smaller stuff, like refusing to compete in sports, or not showing you any affection while other kids are giving their Moms and Dads hugs and...

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How One Parent Went Through Multiple Aggressive Meltdowns a Day All the Way Down to Zero

 

Megan and her husband Paul were at their wits end and had run through three different therapists in two years!

They were starting to think that their five year old was just going to be one of those kids that just isn't parentable, until they stumbled upon our work and had a call with us. 

In that conversation, they learned what was possible and what was available to their family. 

Megan & Paul were able to do the work to break out of the pattern of daily, multiple times a day meltdown cycle with their daughter that they have been dealing with since she was 18 months old. 

I'm not here to tell you that it was easy. 

Megan and Paul were skeptical of our work together for several weeks into the program. 

Yet they still were able to achieve the results we're talking about. 

We're here to support you and make this simple but it doesn't mean that it’ll be easy.

Breaking out of this pattern requires you to change the way that you think about your...

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Why Therapy Is the WORST Way to End the Meltdown Cycle …

Thinking of taking your HSC to therapy?

If so … Don’t do ANYTHING until you read this blog.

Now, I want to preface this by saying, I never make sensationalist comments for the sake of it.

That’s not my style.

I want to give you help and advice, not be ‘controversial’ in order to generate engagement.

That’s why you know I’m being deadly serious when I say that therapy could be ruining your child’s emotional intelligence.

Whether we’re talking about ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis) …

PCIT (Parent-Child Interaction Therapy) …

Or even something like sticker charts …

None of these help to eliminate meltdowns.

Why?

Well, traditional therapy uses a reward structure.

It rewards good behavior, and punishes bad behavior.

You might do that when you’re training a dog … But not when you’re parenting your kiddo.

The problem with this approach is that it focuses purely on stopping the symptom.

Let’s...

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Ok, School's Honeymoon Phase Is Over

 

Do you ever wonder if your kid is REALLY having a problem at school …

… or if what they’re going through is just a regular struggle that all HSCs face, and it might pass in time?

There’s no doubt about it, parenting a sensitive child is tough.

You know they have needs other kids don’t.

And that you need to bring your A-game, every single day.

But still, sometimes there’s that creeping doubt -

“Should I be doing more … Or do I need to let them figure some of this out on their own?”

You know me -- In my coaching practice, we’re all about giving HSCs the tools, skills and resilience they need to handle whatever life throws at them.

But sometimes, you gotta step in.

Especially if they’re really having problems at school.

The question is -

How do you know?

Well, there’s 3 things to look out for:

#1: Is your kid being singled out?

I’m not talking about your kid getting feedback every now and then for not...

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Why Does My HSC Get Glowing Reports From School But Home Is a Nightmare?

hsc parenting Sep 14, 2022

“Why does my child do so well at school …

… but completely lose it at home?”

That’s a question we get a lot from parents.

See, while it might be natural to assume your kiddo would act up MORE at school, because of the extra stimulus, the extra stress, and having to conform to ‘rules’ …

The opposite is often true.
And it can leave parents scratching their heads, wondering what they’re doing wrong.

Here’s the thing - 

You’re not doing anything wrong.

Think about it:

There are things that happen at work that stress YOU out.

But what do you do?

You realize you can’t shout, scream and yell at people, because, well … you’re at work!

But when you get home, you probably let all your emotions out.

Or, if something triggered you at home, you’d probably be a lot less cool, calm and collected than you are in the workplace. 

Why?

Because home is your safe space.

And you might think it’s...

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Behavioral Treatments are Ruining Your Child's Emotional Intelligence

 

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President or Prisoner?

I talk a lot about overcoming problems in these emails.

Ending the meltdowns …

Calming the fights, tears and tantrums …

And I often share how to simply cope with the challenges raising an HSC can bring.

That’s because I know how tough it can be.

But one thing I don’t talk about nearly as much as I maybe should, is how amazing your child can be.

See, HSCs have a TON of potential.

And actually, they have a hidden advantage over other kids, that means they’re often way more likely to succeed.

I know that might be tough to get your head around, if right now you’re only just making it through the day with your sanity intact.

But believe me, by the end of this email, I think you’ll feel differently.

See, being highly sensitive isn’t a ‘problem.’

It’s actually a gift.

And I genuinely believe sensitive kids have the power to change the world.

But only if you do things right.

I was recently talking to a Mom who was new to...

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The Whole Household Is Ready to Rest but Your HSC Is Wired

 

Running around the house like someone gave them a Red Bull at 8pm.

Bedtime battles can be the worst kind of meltdown in this cycle.

When your energy is drained, your patience is thin, of course it drives you extra crazy to watch your kid take 30+ minutes to do the simple tasks of pjs and brush teeth.

But the saddest part can be that you look forward to the snuggle time that can happen as soon as they get this part done, adding to your frustration.

And you know that disappointment is about to be shared– because the ‘one more story’ or ‘just a minute’ right before lights out could mean a big explosion if you don’t concede to the request…

When do these mental gymnastics end?

Do you prioritize the actual bed time… or calm so your kid can actually settle into bed?

Do you apologize to your future self for having to pay for cavity fillings when the toothbrushing process is as limp as cooked spaghetti?

You might have heard from others...

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Worried About Getting Your Kid Back Into a Routine for School?

There’s no doubt about it, HSCs thrive on having a regular routine.

And that’s all well and good … But sometimes, try as you might, routine isn’t something you can control.

Like after summer vacation.

You know this as well as anyone, but small changes can bring about BIG reactions in sensitive kids.

They can get stuck in overwhelm, descend into a shutdown cycle, or go into full-on meltdowns, just from the tiniest change in schedule.

Meaning for many parents, getting back into a routine post-Summer is a nightmare.

And what might seem like a small change to you (or even to most kids) feels like their world is ending to an HSC.

It doesn’t matter if you revert to the exact same routine they had a couple of months back, they find adjustment super difficult.

And that can lead to a 3-hour marathon argument every morning.

Or begging and pleading to get them to get up and get dressed.

Or maybe they even start acting up at school, because they just can’t...

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