Let’s get two things straight.
#1 You’re not a bad parent.
#2 Screen time is not a coping skill.
Using a screen to distract your thoughts does not shut your brain off.
It puts your mind on pause.
There is a difference between regulated and checked out. Screens help you check out.
Your child has a negative emotion,
pulls out their screen to distract themselves from that feeling,
stacks the emotional information they absorb from the screen PLUS the negative emotion,
and the original negative emotion is NEVER dealt with…
...Only leading to Meltdown City.
When you pull out the tablet, you’re telling your kid to distract themselves.
“Distract yourself from your tantrum because I can’t deal with it, and neither can you.”
I know you do NOT want to be that parent… that’s why you are here.
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Hitting, kicking, screaming, cursing, running away… Are you raising a sociopath?
“Don’t you notice that he’s hurt!”
“See, you made him cry!”
...Are phrases that create shame in your child and keep this cycle going.
But how else do you get your HSC to notice the outcome of what they’re doing?
Ask yourself: Are you still blaming your sensitive kid for their lack of empathy?
When kids feel overstimulated, they SEE RED.
If your child is making UNSAFE choices when they see red,
Hitting and acting like they are out of control in their own bodies,
THEY NEED YOUR HELP.
Once the meltdown hits, your kid is no longer in control of their body. This TERRIFIES them.
When their body is out of control, EVERYTHING is a threat.
They can't learn, think, and see outside of themselves.
Watch the replay to learn more about why empathy is NOT the problem.
You’ve talked to your sensitive kid or teen about why it’s important to bathe and you still have a stinky kid. What gives?
Your instinct as a parent is to tell your child WHY their body needs to stay clean.
You've read advice like:
“Explain the consequences of not bathing!“
“Just tell them to suck it up!”
Here’s the thing. It’s never logic that holds your kid back from taking action.
Because you’re not addressing the actual problem...
Watch the video to learn how to help your child get past their hygiene meltdown, and click the link to book a call with my team to end the meltdown cycle for good.
Parents of sensitive teens:
You have plans to go on a romantic vacation with your spouse for the first time in years.
Your marriage needs this.
When was the last time you REALLY connected, with zero distractions?
You try to get away… you’re at dinner, your phone rings… and it’s your kid. Again.
They are hysterical because Nana doesn’t know the password to the iPad.
This is the third time they have called in the last hour.
You say, “Why did I even bother?”
…What do you do?
If this sounds familiar, what if I told you there was an option that didn’t rely on survival-mode parenting?
You need a system, support, accountability, and a plan.
Join me LIVE to learn how to stop your HSC from melting down when you have to leave town.
If you're ready to break this down with clear, evidenced based playful strategies to create a system that has worked...
When your child freezes, freaks out or stalls when their routine or expectations aren’t met, it can go from 0-100 quickly.
Contrary to what you might believe, teaching your child to handle these surprising situations IN THE MOMENT perpetuates the problem.
Believe it or not, it’s not an effective strategy (for longterm change).
Tune in to learn how to break the cycle of your child’s intense reactions to change (using proven, research-backed methods)...
And to learn how your well-intentioned coping skills you're trying to teach your kid...are actually setting him up for more emotional struggle.
Book your call with our team if you’re tired of tip-toeing around your child or teen and want to build resilience for your sensitive child without making them ‘suck it up’ or coaching them to breathe into a paper bag for every little thing.
Parents of children:
Parents of teens:
Contrary to what you may think...
Your HSC's sleep issues are NOT just about vitamins, screens or diet.
As much as you try to limit screen time, sugar or food dyes...many of you are also hesitant to use a pill to support your child in falling asleep.
At any age, parents need to be aware of their sensitive child or teen’s emotional problems that may be the root of their sleep issues.
Altering diet, adding vitamins/medications and other ‘quick fix’ approaches are really just masking deeper causes...that require long term commitments.
Look, I get it, I avoid certain foods too.
Sunshine is good for the body, to process proper hormones to support sleep onset. That’s just it, however: ‘support.’
Because when you avoid helping your child learn how to process anxiety-provoking topics like the school day, friendships, and family relationships...
Then all the ‘tricks’ in the world aren’t going to help your sensitive kid settle...
I’m declaring WAR on time-outs, removing tablets, sticker charts...
But not on YOU as a parent if that’s what you’ve used to TRY to figure out how to help your child.
There’s a big difference between feeling trapped in trying to help your kid manage their big emotions, and get your outcomes…
...and just plain not caring about whether your child feels feelings when they can’t get what they want, treat them like a dog on a choke collar, and justify it.
I KNOW that’s not you.
I KNOW you love your child.
I KNOW you’ve tried all the things.
That’s WHY YOU’RE HERE.
So, let’s talk about why the “tricks” “strategies” “tactics” and “tools” aren’t working.
But let’s leave the blame game out of it.
Because if you truly didn’t want what is best for your kid, and you truly didn’t give a damn...
You wouldn’t be here.
You’d be commenting...