Hitting, kicking, screaming, cursing, running away… Are you raising a sociopath?
“Don’t you notice that he’s hurt!”
“See, you made him cry!”
...Are phrases that create shame in your child and keep this cycle going.
But how else do you get your HSC to notice the outcome of what they’re doing?
Ask yourself: Are you still blaming your sensitive kid for their lack of empathy?
When kids feel overstimulated, they SEE RED.
If your child is making UNSAFE choices when they see red,
Hitting and acting like they are out of control in their own bodies,
THEY NEED YOUR HELP.
Once the meltdown hits, your kid is no longer in control of their body. This TERRIFIES them.
When their body is out of control, EVERYTHING is a threat.
They can't learn, think, and see outside of themselves.
Watch the replay to learn more about why empathy is NOT the problem.
You have plans to go on a romantic vacation with your spouse for the first time in years.
Your marriage needs this.
When was the last time you REALLY connected, with zero distractions?
You try to get away… you’re at dinner, your phone rings… and it’s your kid. Again.
They are hysterical because Nana doesn’t know the password to the iPad.
This is the third time they have called in the last hour.
You say, “Why did I even bother?”
…What do you do?
If this sounds familiar, what if I told you there was an option that didn’t rely on survival-mode parenting?
You need a system, support, accountability, and a plan.
Join me LIVE to learn how to stop your HSC from melting down when you have to leave town.
If you're ready to break this down with clear, evidenced based playful strategies to create a system that has worked...
A typical pattern we hear from parents working to help their child end the meltdown cycle is to focus on their child’s coping skills.
When you’re in the middle of surviving this cycle you can get stuck in throwing things at the wall to see what sticks…
…So, here’s what the cycle looks like: your child has a meltdown.
You try to help them through it.
While they’re melting down, you’re teaching them to use a skill, and they refuse to use it in the moment…
So, you try to talk about it later…
…and when the next meltdown comes, your child refuses again, and you do it all over again… and again… and again… for all eternity…
…it seriously feels like it will be, because when you feel this reactive, it’s jarring to think about how your child would ever stop their meltdown behavior.
When your child isn’t consistent with their coping skills it’s quite frustrating to...
I’m going to speak to you as a wife for a second… My husband has NO parenting expertise.
I have had to overcome several myths to get us on the same page, the very same ones I helped my clients through early on in my career, before I just simply made a decision to not buy into the story from one parent that the other wasn’t committed.
Once I made that decision, I stopped hearing from parents that one was less committed than the other.
Once I had a kid, however, I had to remember these decisions and apply them to my husband. Because, as you know, professional and personal lives are different.
So, I did the work.
When you’re dealing with ending the daily meltdown cycle, it’s important to BELIEVE with every fiber of your being that your spouse wants to live a different life than what you’re living right now.
It’s your turn:
MYTH:: Your partner is certain their way “works”.
FACT: Your partner knows...
For many, this year has been a whirlwind of intense emotions, loss, grief and disruption. And many opportunities of growth have posed themselves for parents.
In that avenue, this year has been one of witnessing hundreds of parents reaching out for help, accessing it, setting their sensitive children up for success while simultaneously learning how to set boundaries for themselves. A feat for parents of sensitive children to begin with, and in a pandemic, an even bigger achievement.
Now more than ever, your children are looking to you to see how they can respond to fear.
Your priority as a parent is to stay strong, guide yourselves, and focus on love as we lead our children to manage emotions from a place of compassion.
This disruption to the family dynamic while the country creates safety in a pandemic isn’t going away for many months. If your child isn’t emotionally available for learning in a new setting, they can fall further behind in their schooling as...
I wanted to talk today about a common misconception that a lot of my HSC parent clients face when they think about teaching their child responsibility and follow-through (and to just freakin' get ready on time).
Look, as someone who grew up getting paid for her A’s on report cards, it’s hard for me to write this because cash in the bank felt good in my childhood/teen years, (despite having my first job at age 12). But what we as parents don’t often realize, is that these rewards (be it stickers, money, prize boxes or praise) actually lead to long term struggle.
The logic makes sense on the surface. Work hard, get a reward, work hard again, get another reward, etc. Parents suppose that it will help build a connection that hard work reaps benefits, makes you feel good inside, and builds self-esteem and a sense of feeling capable. What this pattern actually leads to, however, is the exact opposite.
Highly sensitive kids are especially vulnerable to...
As parents, we know the importance of watching our budgets to make sure our family's financial needs are met. But I also know parents of highly sensitive children are considering more than just money when it comes to raising their child.
You're watching the minutes tick by while your child continues to meltdown, knowing you will be late for work again. You're seeing the pile of clothes laying in their closest because they “just don't feel right” to your kiddo. You know how much energy you lose every time another meltdown starts.
But do you ever consider what this is costing your highly sensitive child?
Today, I'm discussing three different costs that you probably haven't considered when it comes to raising a highly sensitive child.
When your highly sensitive child is melting down once or twice a day, you already know the hours that are being lost. But what about the EXPERIENCES that are being lost? I'm not talking about...