Tis the season of good food and gratitude!
When you go around the family table and ask what everyone is grateful for,
Do you find yourself bracing for the possibility of a meltdown...?
Maybe you’re not even there yet.
Maybe you’re still trying to get your HSC to come out of their room and say hello to their cousins,
Or trying to get them to lose the attitude with Grandpa that they suddenly have,
Or simply put on their shoes to leave the house…
Whichever stage you feel stuck on, you’re not alone.
Family gatherings are stressful during the holidays, no matter how much you love your family.
Tune in if you’re nervous about the holidays... because Thanksgiving is already NEXT WEEK.
For Highly Sensitive Teens:
Hitting, kicking, screaming, cursing, running away… Are you raising a sociopath?
“Don’t you notice that he’s hurt!”
“See, you made him cry!”
...Are phrases that create shame in your child and keep this cycle going.
But how else do you get your HSC to notice the outcome of what they’re doing?
Ask yourself: Are you still blaming your sensitive kid for their lack of empathy?
When kids feel overstimulated, they SEE RED.
If your child is making UNSAFE choices when they see red,
Hitting and acting like they are out of control in their own bodies,
THEY NEED YOUR HELP.
Once the meltdown hits, your kid is no longer in control of their body. This TERRIFIES them.
When their body is out of control, EVERYTHING is a threat.
They can't learn, think, and see outside of themselves.
Watch the replay to learn more about why empathy is NOT the problem.
That moment when you think....
"Is she doing this on purpose?"
"Maybe he's just going this for attention?"
"Is my child manipulating me?"
Whether it's trying to get homework done, being put to bed on time or just getting out the door- the thought lingers in the back, or front, of your mind.
What about when you realize your child's meltdowns are controlling the entire day? Is that what they wanted all along? Is this how it's always going to be?
Join me to learn the truth about what's really going on.
How one FRIED mama went from wearing her baby NONSTOP to keep him safe from her preschooler’s hits, to regularly relaxing on the couch with her hubby while the kids play safely.
Join me in learning from Toni’s journey from fear, hyper-vigilance, and trying all of the strategies, to calmly supporting her son in ceasing the meltdown cycle…all with more energy and while taking on a new job!
Watch the video now!
Trying to navigate your child's meltdowns, shame spirals, and outbursts on a day to day basis is REALLY HARD.
I get it.
Parents tell me all the time that they are surviving by just "picking their battles."
But picking your battles is not the solution. It will not support you HSC emotionally. It will not save you energy for the next meltdown. It will not bring your family the peace and joy they deserve.
In this video, I discuss the traps parents of highly sensitive kids fall into when choosing to pick their battles...
And what you can do to avoid these traps.
Watch this video to learn more!
Many parents ask me... My child is having meltdowns... is it really that bad? Isn't that normal for kids?
How my 10+ years of expertise working with Highly Sensitive Children & their families and my personal family experiences impacts my opinion, and what that means for your family.
Watch this video to learn more!
Why can’t my HSC be happy?
Is my HSC destined for struggle?
We know these are questions that spin through your head. You may have a relative that struggles and you can draw parallels with your child’s behavior. Or perhaps you yourself had a rough childhood and you’re busting your butt to be certain your HSC doesn’t struggle with intense emotions like you did.
In this video, I speak about why your child is struggling in relation to your parenting style. Not to shame you. To help you see what YOU can take action on immediately.
You cannot control how your child relates to the world. But you can for damn sure influence it to the point where your child CHANGES themselves.
Without doing that, your child is left on their own to figure out how to manage their emotions, because they ultimately feel misunderstood. It’s why they say you don’t get it. It’s why they don’t come to you before they have hit their limits, and why they don’t learn...
Your child learns how to manage her feelings from you. If your HSC isn’t managing herself, naming her own emotions, or calming herself down, there is a missing link in how you are teaching & leading in your home, ESPECIALLY if daily meltdowns are happening in your home.
HSCs do not learn to generalize the skill of managing emotions from any other professional or environment but from their parent.
Without daily focus on communicating emotions safely, and learning how to do this independently as a child, your HSC will learn to require others to make her feel better.
This means she will be a boat untethered in a storm as a teen. Wishing for her friends to tell her what to do, but worrying about how she will look if she asks them what to do.
...Wallowing in internal sorrow, and fearful of what others think.
...Experiencing continued anxiety at best, debilitating depression at worst.
As a young adult she will turn from wishing for direction and emotional support to...
Join me for another look at research on HSCs, as I discuss why your child's rollercoaster of emotions is not an accurate signal of progress.