It’s true that you can only help people who WANT your help.
That includes your children.
This is a tough spot to be in, because not only do you want to help your child,
It’s literally your most important job on the planet.
It’s scary when you feel like you can’t help your kid.
It’s even scarier when they run away from you and you know they’re upset.
So when your kid shut you out or physically runs away from you,
What do you do first?
Find your kid… Then what?
Lecture them on the dangers of running away?
Yell at them in hopes that if they feel afraid, they won’t repeat the behavior?
Or walk on eggshells in case they do it again?
Chances are, you’ve tried all 3 things here, so I’m going to tell you what you HAVEN’T tried.
Here it is:
Eliminating the daily meltdown cycle all together.
And at MTC, you can do that in as little as 8 weeks.
First, I want to walk you through why your child is exhibiting this behavior.
If it feels like your HSC is down in the dumps more than the average kid,
You’ll want to hear this.
You are not alone.
Our client Savannah knows exactly how that feels, and that feeling was HARD to work through.
Savannah’s story is common for parents who are stuck in the meltdown cycle.
She wanted to be a mom for such a long time,
And the fact that her child seemed melancholy SO often was disheartening.
She describes her HSC as feeling upset and on edge constantly,
And even stated that there was a lack of connection.
She felt like no matter how much her and Alan tried,
They could not meet their HSC’s needs.
She also felt like she could not help her child in the midst of a meltdown.
And that was really discouraging.
In Savannah’s words, “I felt helpless. I was failing myself and my daughter.”
So how did this family break out of the meltdown cycle with MTC’s help?
Tune in to hear Savannah’s story.
Have you ever felt like having a kid ruined your life?
I KNOW this statement is incredibly controversial…
However, when you work with parents whose children are suffering so badly with daily meltdowns like I do,
It’s a statement that we hear frequently.
A statement that, of course, is the most shameful thing a parent can admit to.
Because anyone with a pulse and a drop of empathy knows that even having that thought for a fleeting moment ONCE must affect your relationship with your kid…
And their relationship with themselves.
And since we only work with awesome parents, who always have awesome kids,
Admitting something like this is not only gut-wrenching.
It can be paralyzing.
But don’t fret just yet. We have the answers you need. Tune in to hear more.
For Highly Sensitive Teens:
When we have babies, we learn how incredible the miracle of creating a human can be.
It is amazing to see our fragile infants grow into toddlers, children, teens, and then adults.
But if your child is Highly Sensitive, you may feel like that fragility hasn’t left your kid yet.
And I’m not talking about physical development.
I’m talking about kids who still cry over spilt milk (literally) at 7 or 8 years old,
The same way they did when they were 2.
Or kids who have meltdowns over what seems like everything…
Again, this is not the “terrible twos” we’re talking about here.
Kids who are stuck in the meltdown cycle feel like a ticking time bomb,
And parents of HSC’s stuck in this cycle are tip-toeing around their sensitive emotions,
Because you assume they’re too fragile to handle anything out of place.
Tune in to learn why your HSC is not as fragile as you think, and why it’s important to own that fact.
Tis the season of good food and gratitude!
When you go around the family table and ask what everyone is grateful for,
Do you find yourself bracing for the possibility of a meltdown...?
Maybe you’re not even there yet.
Maybe you’re still trying to get your HSC to come out of their room and say hello to their cousins,
Or trying to get them to lose the attitude with Grandpa that they suddenly have,
Or simply put on their shoes to leave the house…
Whichever stage you feel stuck on, you’re not alone.
Family gatherings are stressful during the holidays, no matter how much you love your family.
Tune in if you’re nervous about the holidays... because Thanksgiving is already NEXT WEEK.
For Highly Sensitive Teens:
Hitting, kicking, screaming, cursing, running away… Are you raising a sociopath?
“Don’t you notice that he’s hurt!”
“See, you made him cry!”
...Are phrases that create shame in your child and keep this cycle going.
But how else do you get your HSC to notice the outcome of what they’re doing?
Ask yourself: Are you still blaming your sensitive kid for their lack of empathy?
When kids feel overstimulated, they SEE RED.
If your child is making UNSAFE choices when they see red,
Hitting and acting like they are out of control in their own bodies,
THEY NEED YOUR HELP.
Once the meltdown hits, your kid is no longer in control of their body. This TERRIFIES them.
When their body is out of control, EVERYTHING is a threat.
They can't learn, think, and see outside of themselves.
Watch the replay to learn more about why empathy is NOT the problem.
That moment when you think....
"Is she doing this on purpose?"
"Maybe he's just going this for attention?"
"Is my child manipulating me?"
Whether it's trying to get homework done, being put to bed on time or just getting out the door- the thought lingers in the back, or front, of your mind.
What about when you realize your child's meltdowns are controlling the entire day? Is that what they wanted all along? Is this how it's always going to be?
Join me to learn the truth about what's really going on.
How one FRIED mama went from wearing her baby NONSTOP to keep him safe from her preschooler’s hits, to regularly relaxing on the couch with her hubby while the kids play safely.
Join me in learning from Toni’s journey from fear, hyper-vigilance, and trying all of the strategies, to calmly supporting her son in ceasing the meltdown cycle…all with more energy and while taking on a new job!
Watch the video now!
Trying to navigate your child's meltdowns, shame spirals, and outbursts on a day to day basis is REALLY HARD.
I get it.
Parents tell me all the time that they are surviving by just "picking their battles."
But picking your battles is not the solution. It will not support you HSC emotionally. It will not save you energy for the next meltdown. It will not bring your family the peace and joy they deserve.
In this video, I discuss the traps parents of highly sensitive kids fall into when choosing to pick their battles...
And what you can do to avoid these traps.
Watch this video to learn more!