Hitting, kicking, screaming, cursing, running away… Are you raising a sociopath?
“Don’t you notice that he’s hurt!”
“See, you made him cry!”
...Are phrases that create shame in your child and keep this cycle going.
But how else do you get your HSC to notice the outcome of what they’re doing?
Ask yourself: Are you still blaming your sensitive kid for their lack of empathy?
When kids feel overstimulated, they SEE RED.
If your child is making UNSAFE choices when they see red,
Hitting and acting like they are out of control in their own bodies,
THEY NEED YOUR HELP.
Once the meltdown hits, your kid is no longer in control of their body. This TERRIFIES them.
When their body is out of control, EVERYTHING is a threat.
They can't learn, think, and see outside of themselves.
Watch the replay to learn more about why empathy is NOT the problem.
When your child is struggling to control their temper, and throws, kicks or yells, it’s hard to know how to stop the cycle. It doesn’t seem like it should be, but when your efforts to teach your child to stop hitting because it hurts others fall on deaf ears, or creates another outburst, it’s easy to get frustrated and feel lost.
Especially when your child’s second meltdown is because your kiddo is defending their choice to hit… or full of shame, embarrassment and regret about needing to behave differently.
You wrack your brain on how to teach your child without recreating the meltdown. You know your sensitive kiddo needs to learn to control his body, but you don’t want to teach him at the expense of his self-esteem.
...But conventional wisdom teaches you to use guilt…
It may not be your first tool in your toolbox, but if you’re set up in this cycle of trying to teach, creating consequences for the aggressive...