It’s like that song Manic Monday, except it sounds more like “....Actually everyday is like this...And I don’t know why my kid is miserable!”
When your child won’t wake up on time and the meltdown starts before they even open their eyes all the way, dread sits in the back of your throat while you sleep. You can't help but think:
"Tomorrow morning is going to be another s*** show."
Take our client Diana. After 3 years of dealing with major meltdowns, she was worried that her relationship with her HSC (3rd grade) would not survive into adulthood.
Watch LIVE while I bust some myths about meltdowns and what you need to focus on in 3 steps. (Spoiler: it’s not a sleep routine!)
For sensitive children:
For sensitive teens:
Let’s get two things straight.
#1 You’re not a bad parent.
#2 Screen time is not a coping skill.
Using a screen to distract your thoughts does not shut your brain off.
It puts your mind on pause.
There is a difference between regulated and checked out. Screens help you check out.
Your child has a negative emotion,
pulls out their screen to distract themselves from that feeling,
stacks the emotional information they absorb from the screen PLUS the negative emotion,
and the original negative emotion is NEVER dealt with…
...Only leading to Meltdown City.
When you pull out the tablet, you’re telling your kid to distract themselves.
“Distract yourself from your tantrum because I can’t deal with it, and neither can you.”
I know you do NOT want to be that parent… that’s why you are here.
Watch LIVE to learn how to handle screen time in your household.
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Hitting, kicking, screaming, cursing, running away… Are you raising a sociopath?
“Don’t you notice that he’s hurt!”
“See, you made him cry!”
...Are phrases that create shame in your child and keep this cycle going.
But how else do you get your HSC to notice the outcome of what they’re doing?
Ask yourself: Are you still blaming your sensitive kid for their lack of empathy?
When kids feel overstimulated, they SEE RED.
If your child is making UNSAFE choices when they see red,
Hitting and acting like they are out of control in their own bodies,
THEY NEED YOUR HELP.
Once the meltdown hits, your kid is no longer in control of their body. This TERRIFIES them.
When their body is out of control, EVERYTHING is a threat.
They can't learn, think, and see outside of themselves.
Watch the replay to learn more about why empathy is NOT the problem.
You’ve talked to your sensitive kid or teen about why it’s important to bathe and you still have a stinky kid. What gives?
Your instinct as a parent is to tell your child WHY their body needs to stay clean.
You've read advice like:
“Explain the consequences of not bathing!“
“Just tell them to suck it up!”
Here’s the thing. It’s never logic that holds your kid back from taking action.
Because you’re not addressing the actual problem...
Watch the video to learn how to help your child get past their hygiene meltdown, and click the link to book a call with my team to end the meltdown cycle for good.
Parents of sensitive teens:
You have plans to go on a romantic vacation with your spouse for the first time in years.
Your marriage needs this.
When was the last time you REALLY connected, with zero distractions?
You try to get away… you’re at dinner, your phone rings… and it’s your kid. Again.
They are hysterical because Nana doesn’t know the password to the iPad.
This is the third time they have called in the last hour.
You say, “Why did I even bother?”
…What do you do?
If this sounds familiar, what if I told you there was an option that didn’t rely on survival-mode parenting?
You need a system, support, accountability, and a plan.
Join me LIVE to learn how to stop your HSC from melting down when you have to leave town.
If you're ready to break this down with clear, evidenced based playful strategies to create a system that has worked...
When it comes to breaking the meltdown cycle, many parents will want to address where they get stuck with their child's behavior, and none of that will matter without getting unstuck in your own behavior.
You know you play a pivotal role in managing your own emotions, but on the live video I made this week I discussed how you play a pivotal role in perpetuating the meltdown cycle, through your own understanding of the cycle itself.
I discuss the 6 Coping Potholes in Parenting an HSC and the one thing you need to change to fix them all in this video.
How one FRIED mama went from wearing her baby NONSTOP to keep him safe from her preschooler’s hits, to regularly relaxing on the couch with her hubby while the kids play safely.
Join me in learning from Toni’s journey from fear, hyper-vigilance, and trying all of the strategies, to calmly supporting her son in ceasing the meltdown cycle…all with more energy and while taking on a new job!
Watch the video now!
Avoid the vortex of negativity as the media and your newsfeed is freaking out with the coronavirus crisis. Focus on what you can control.
Now more than ever, as your children are looking to you to see how they can respond to fear.
This video is a great one to come back to as we stay strong, guide ourselves, and focus on love as we lead our children to manage emotions from a place of love.
It starts with you as a parent.
Wise action comes from love, not fear. Not overthinking, not rumination, not spinning through your options in your brain a million times over until "this passes."
Because the truth is that if you don't step out of your own head, and into your heart, your worries actually become ALL you can think about.
And that certainly doesn't solve your problem, and help your HSC creatively learn how to solve theirs.
So if you see your HSC imploding (hiding, running away, struggling to communicate until you PULL it out of them harder than it took them to pop their baby teeth...