STOP trying to solve your kid’s problems.
That might be a weird way to start a blog …
But way too many parents go into “fix it mode” the moment their kid enters a meltdown.
If you do this, it’s keeping them stuck in a destructive cycle.
I know you’re only trying to help.
Trouble is, “fix it mode” usually means bypassing your kid’s feelings, and looking for a solution.
To you and I, a solution is the best thing, right?
But to your child, mid-meltdown, a solution is the last thing they want.
What do they want?
To feel validated.
And to know you hear them and see them.
That’s not to say you can’t problem solve.
You just need to solve the problem together.
And you need to wait til the right time.
So when your kid goes into a meltdown, what should you do?
First up, acknowledge their emotions.
You can even say -
“I see this is frustrating for you.”
That’ll make them feel seen and heard, and immediately deescalates the situation.
You want to model healthy emotional expression.
Demonstrate positive ways to tackle negative emotions, like -
Then, when they’re calmer and ready to problem solve, brainstorm win-win solutions together.
Do that, and I promise you, you’ll have a calmer child who’s less likely to go into a meltdown.
And when they do have one?
You’ll find it so much easier to get them out of it.
Kids grow up fast.
And you don’t want to spend your parenting years feeling stressed and tense.
You can never get this time back.
So if you’re feeling like no matter what you do, your HSC is struggling …
And you want a proven game plan so you stop walking on eggshells, bring peace and calm into the home, and actually have that parent-child relationship you always dreamed of …
It’s so easy to let weeks, months, and even years slip by.
And before you know it, you’re looking back, thinking -
“I wish I tried to get a handle on this sooner.”
I don’t want that for you.
And I know you don’t want it for yourself.
So do something about it now.