Why can’t my HSC be happy?

Is my HSC destined for struggle?

We know these are questions that spin through your head. You may have a relative that struggles and you can draw parallels with your child’s behavior. Or perhaps you yourself had a rough childhood and you’re busting your butt to be certain your HSC doesn’t struggle with intense emotions like you did.

In this video, I speak about why your child is struggling in relation to your parenting style. Not to shame you. To help you see what YOU can take action on immediately.

You cannot control how your child relates to the world. But you can for damn sure influence it to the point where your child CHANGES themselves.

Without doing that, your child is left on their own to figure out how to manage their emotions, because they ultimately feel misunderstood. It’s why they say you don’t get it. It’s why they don’t come to you before they have hit their limits, and why they don’t learn...

Your child learns how to manage her feelings from you. If your HSC isn’t managing herself, naming her own emotions, or calming herself down, there is a missing link in how you are teaching & leading in your home, ESPECIALLY if daily meltdowns are happening in your home.

HSCs do not learn to generalize the skill of managing emotions from any other professional or environment but from their parent. 

Without daily focus on communicating emotions safely, and learning how to do this independently as a child, your HSC will learn to require others to make her feel better.

This means she will be a boat untethered in a storm as a teen. Wishing for her friends to tell her what to do, but worrying about how she will look if she asks them what to do.

...Wallowing in internal sorrow, and fearful of what others think. 

...Experiencing continued anxiety at best, debilitating depression at worst.

As a young adult she will turn from wishing for direction and emotional support to...

When your HSC is showing signs of atypical behavior, how do you know it’s related to their personality or to a mental health issue that should be addressed by a professional?

Parents often wonder what the difference is: anxiety that is treatable by a mental health disorder, and the Highly Sensitive Personality trait that has led to behavior problems that is more effectively addressed by a change in parenting?

Today I want to talk about what to do to prevent these behaviors from starting in the first place.

Because without the foundation, you won’t be able to tell what is more concerning, and how to decide how to seek professional guidance.

1. When you’re parenting an HSC, it’s important to evaluate your environment: What routine do you have set up that supports your HSC for success? Are you requiring your child to suck it up and deal more often than supporting their intense emotions? 
2. What are your expectations in parenting? Are you consistent with rules,...

Watch this video to learn the #1 skill your Highly Sensitive Child needs to learn as soon as possible. 

Check out this video to learn the 3 Biggest Mistakes most parents make when Validating their HSC. 

Check out this video to learn about the three biggest costs in raising a Highly Sensitive Child. 

Join me for another look at research on HSCs, as I discuss why your child's rollercoaster of emotions is not an accurate signal of progress.

Join me as I discuss why your parenting approach matters more than your child's coping skills "toolbox".

Watch this video if you're interested in learning what to focus on first when you're stuck with your spouse on figuring out what to do to get on the same page.

When your child is struggling to control their temper, and throws, kicks or yells, it’s hard to know how to stop the cycle. It doesn’t seem like it should be, but when your efforts to teach your child to stop hitting because it hurts others fall on deaf ears, or creates another outburst, it’s easy to get frustrated and feel lost.

Especially when your child’s second meltdown is because your kiddo is defending their choice to hit… or full of shame, embarrassment and regret about needing to behave differently.  

You wrack your brain on how to teach your child without recreating the meltdown. You know your sensitive kiddo needs to learn to control his body, but you don’t want to teach him at the expense of his self-esteem. 

...But conventional wisdom teaches you to use guilt…

 It may not be your first tool in your toolbox, but if you’re set up in this cycle of trying to teach, creating consequences for the aggressive...